Is there anyone who actually has DID here? If so, how do you feel about Moran missing the ...

i don’t have DID but my father has it..he has like 3 personalities and my mother has only 1 favorite because the other 2:
1. forgets they are married that already has childrens and "cheated" on my mom like 3 times for their almost 50 years of marriage
2. has the temper/attitude of a teenager who had just hit their puberty
the favorite one:
1. one that is actually manageable but alcoholic and uses drug when things gets prickly but knows how to still be a husband and a dad sometimes..

so to ask your question, to add more to it—maybe this is actually because the second personality was the first to get him know him and introduced him to something that made him feel emotionally attached for how 2nd ho-su managed moran to his personality meanwhile the main personality was never that much interactive. and for how ho-su would probably think, maybe would feel just like how he has been feeling—the thought of the second personality taking over him completely. ho-su would also probably just keep pushing moran away because basically he is already anxious but is hesitant to make moran completely away from him. while in the perspective of a diagnosed person since i have also asked a similar thing to my dad; it would concern them but basically doesn’t know how to fit in to how or what anyone asks a favor for, it’s like a decision you can’t take because that’s what you were given and will give you a headache to change(this was what i remembered how my dad responded to a question i asked him 7 years ago which was “said by mommy a few times doesn’t miss you but the other one she does, does it make you feel something?”)

i can’t ever answer you better than those who are actually diagnosed though! this is just my observations just by being around who is diagnosed with DID. i apologize in advance if i answered you than what was expected though...

Tysm for your answer! To me, it’s really interesting thinking about how people w DID would feel if their partner missed a certain personality. Since I’m not sure if it’d be considered rude or not

I really appreciate ur observations!!

Hi! p-DID system here ! Same as DID but with the fun extra step of this amazing thing called being front-stuck! (this is sarcastic btw, its not so fun). Every system is different. If you’ve met one system, you’ve only met one system. Our experiences and opinions vary greatly from system to system. One system might all consider themselves as being bits of a whole. Dating the same people, identifying similarly, etc. While other systems might consider each part/alter to be an entirely different person. Dating different people, hating people the host might love, not getting involved in each others’s business, etc.

For us, since I’m the one in front or at least co-conscious 80%/90% of the time, we’ll consider all of us (excluding littles and non-human alters of course) to be dating the same person. Even if an alter doesn’t feel any attraction to who I’m dating, they acknowledge the relationship we have and don’t feel upset if that person doesn’t like them either. On top of that, some alters (which is common in systems) will date each other! We have a couple system couples (including situationships or QPRs) who, of course, will only officially consider their partner to be their partner, not the collective’s partner. If that makes any sense.

My experience can be very different to other systems as not every system functions the dame way. For example, my friend who has DID is quite different from me. They, the host, are dating someone, but only one other alter of theirs is also dating this person. The rest of their alters have completely different opinions on their partner and have their own love lives (if any at all). Their partner can miss the host and alter they’re dating while they’re not in front, but when you’re with someone who is a system for long enough and understand how it works, you can allow yourself to miss your partner while knowing they’ll come back eventually, especially if they’re the host. However, there is the fear of the host becoming dormant, but thats a future problem. Which, at some point, the other alters will warm up and will tell their host’s partner, coming to a peaceful conclusion.

Tl;Dr : it GREATLY varies depending on what system you ask. Some care, some don’t.

OH AND it also depends on how the system acts. If they’re overt (obvious switches), the partner of the system or host will have different opinions on the alters. Missing some over others, having trouble handling some, etc! But if the system is covert (hard to tell that they’re even a system), then the system as a whole might feel the same to their partner. Making them feel less likely to miss a specific alter.

For example; with us, we’re quite covert. And even if someone acts different, people often assume I’m “having a bad day”. So it’s less obvious if it’s even me in front or not. I’d assume my partner wouldn’t feel as clingy to me specifically since we all mask quite well!

Tysm for your insight!! I really appreciate it, as it helps me to become more educated about this subject