Yes, as someone who's been in the 'dark' phase before, some tough love is sometimes needed in family.
It's harsh, yes. But, it's the truth. A much needed one.
he is trying to wake her up, yes, but demeaning her and targeting her insecurities is absolutely ridiculous. People have a right to be upset with him when he’s literally telling his sister she’s an unwanted, useless child.
if caring for someone means ignoring their blatantly obvious mental struggles, is that really caring? He brings up how she was constantly holed up in her room crying, but never once was it mentioned that he actually cared enough to do something about it. On the contrary, the only thing we’ve seen him complain about is how HER mental state makes HIS life harder. He’s making her struggles about himself and it’s so blatant i have no idea how you just glossed over this.
So his mother started taking it out on him. Did it bother him when she took it out on Ajin? His primary issue seems to be that he has to take the brunt of his mother now. Yes, maybe he is doing that to push Ajin out of the house away from their mother, but literally no piece of dialogue so far has suggested that.
i agree! at first i thought it was tough love but nope. he probably think he was doing it for her but his irritation really bled on his dialogue didnt it? doing it like that will only push the other person more to the edge. if author intended it to be some sort of tough love that will work the charm later, then the author totally going to miss actual depiction of depression.
it’s no working because oh what dijon is saying is because she’s gaining friends, talking like your sister i pathetic and just a problem for you and your family it won’t help to her depression/anxiety, what he’s saying just reinforces her believes. That’s just verbal abuse and it’s not a method that it’s valid, even if you don’t
know how to express yourself, that just justifies their actions
doesn’t justifies* hehe
i'm speechless babe
? what
For me, Dojin way of waking her up isn't working, well, depends on how the author will flow this but edging someone using their insecurities is not right :( Ajin is a human, a woman and once a girl (fictional character let's say) therefore be gentle who are suffering from the things (we) he can't see.
Her brother instead complained about her life being a mess because it's affecting him. Isn't it ridiculous pinning a person who is struggling, scared of the future and has zero coping be not understood by the people she called family? Dojin should have change his strategies (but that's how the story goes) of waking up her sister. Ajin personality is already hostile, and worries a lot about her future because her environment is not safe for her to open up. Dojin should remember that her sister is not perfect and makes flaws too. Therefore, Dojin isn't one she can rely on nor she called safe space. That is why bloomie and the guild popped up to her mind when dojin shading her with the truth. She felt rather safe on strangers than the people she called family. And that is why gentle advice and giving safe space to the people, finding an amswer to their future would come in, rather be hostile to the hostile, let them have an environment good for them to cope.
someone commented that dojin should die :<
can't y'all at least look at him and think "why is he doing this?" if you have a siblings you would know that he care for his own sister and he doesn't mean whatever he said to her. HE IS PUSHING HER IN LIFE, now that her sister ain't moving the mother's pressuring focus changed from ajin to dojin. that he shouldn't be like her, that he should study well, etc.
he's trying to wake her up, look? don't you see that's it's kinda working? it's probably not the best solution or thing to do but what do you expect with a family who don't communicate? and with a mother like that? WORSE! he look up to her sister, she's his role model.
what if he's doing that so her sister would leave the house and be away from her mother's pressure? what if he's doing that because he wanted her sister to have a future head of her? no one know his reason and point of view but it's clear he cared for her.