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Its a two way street...

Keep in mind a lot of people on this website might be young ppl who don’t have experience in romance. So any immaturity I chalk up to that

Girlie, I know, we know. I’m just focusing on Garam right now because he keeps messing things up again and again lately and he is not owning to his mistakes. Instead, he is just blaming Jaehyuk for every single bad thing that happens in the relationship, and I knew it would happen, I knew Jaehyuk would sooner or later decide to back up (in this case because of Garam’s health issues that he himself poorly managed, let’s be fr now), and I’m glad he did. Now both of them can take their time to think and reflect on whether they want to keep behaving this way or just end things on a good note

Makes so much sense lol because some comments are just baffling to say the least. It really shows people has not encountered real life abusers, narcissists or manipulative partners (and I pray they don’t) who really and truly drain the life out of you and your will to keep even loving yourself xdd

I can sense your frustration from a thousand miles away! Garam is very negative and scared, Jaehyuk instead of making him feel protected shoved his beliefs (because he just love him and nothing mattered - he just love him).. they did not take it slow to understand the fears the effects and how to actually tackle it, it was chaotic to read... I didnt like that it reached this point...

But all I can see now is Jaehyuk's efforts to do what Garam actually whats, and Garam actually has headspace to think and realize maybe how much Jaehyuk meant to him, maybe something worth jumping over the fence for.
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Yeah it makes me happy they haven’t had such terrible life experiences…well maybe yet at least. But I do hope they know the signs so they stay away from those experiences

I mean, who wouldn’t be frustrated seeing two people on completely different pages trying to force something that’s not gonna work unless both sides really decide to do something about it??? Garam needs to be alone to think and learn about his mistakes, so I hope he will be alone for a long time before deciding to engage in anything romantically. Jaehyuk needs to understand that some people think and process information differently; he cannot pretend to know how others might feel towards certain situations, especially if he hasn’t experienced them himself. Also, it’s important to be complacent sometimes towards your partner, not always, and both of them need to acknowledge that and set boundaries.

Yes, truly. I think they won’t know the signs if they fall in love first, because you know what they say, love blinds us. Unless they notice them beforehand, most of them will have to experience the whole ordeal to get a grasp of what’s going on and finally get out of it… That’s why people need time alone, to realize this kind of things and learn what they want and don’t want from their partner

So true