Why should the person wanting to hide the relationship have more respect than the one who wants to be out?
Like I said, this is a queer relationship, not some ordinary straight relationships who are more accepted in society. And I know this is just fiction, but even in this story we can see people are not that accepting to gay relationship, like Jaehyuk's parents and Garam's past. And remember Jaehyuk before? How he was a homophobes and how much of an asshole he was when he learned that Garam is gay? Garam has a solid reason to hide their relationship. Sure, they can act nonchalant to people's reaction, but who knows what comes to them when people finds out they are gay. There's a reason why a bunch of queer people still find it hard to come out. And if Jaehyuk really wants to out their relationship, then shouldn't he ask Garam first if he's okay with it?
I’ve been in queer relationships all my life, that doesn’t justify the way garam is moving rn. I understand not wanting to out your relationship, but garam doesn’t want jaehyuk to come out AT ALL. he’s attempted to tell his friends multiple times that he’s dating a man writhing specifically saying the man is garam, yet garam keeps preventing bf him from doing so. Garam shouldn’t decide when jaehyuk tells people that he’s dating a man. He clearly isn’t okay with their relationship being closed, and garam isn’t okay with it being open. So realistically they just shouldn’t be together.
A relationship shouldn’t be one sided. One person’s feelings don’t matter more than the others, and garam doesn’t seem to understand that his fear doesn’t give him a right to suppress Jaehyuk coming out on his own terms.
And this why i said their communication was just so bad. They just keep doing things on their own without talking it to the other first and just jump into conclusion themself, this is their main problem. If they actually communicate, they can settle together if they want their relationship to be closed or open. In my opinion, they just both at fault here, no one is more right and no one is more wrong. The problem came from both of them.
Yeah that’s why I really just think they aren’t a good fit. We’re attached to them as a couple but with the direction we’re goin in I just don’t see it working in anyones favor
I know Jaehyuk's intention is good and that he's brave and wanted to be proud of their relationship, but the way he thinks was just shallow. Garam was right to be mad, queer relationship is still very taboo there and if your partner want to hide your relationship, then you should respect it, not casually outing your relationship just like that. But again, their communication was just very bad and Garam shouldn't just suddenly moving out like that... （￣へ￣）