I also want to add that Jaehyuk was previously a part of the group of people Garam is so worried about. I find it ironic how Jaehyuk feels as though he doesn’t have to worry about homophobia and expects Garam to also not worry about homophobia when Jaehyuk started out as homophobic. Jaehyuk doesn’t care about the ridicule they’d potentially receive because he hasn’t been gay long enough to understand how that can damage a person. He simply does not understand and that’s not to say that his feelings are invalid, because anyone would want to be open about their relationship when it’s with someone they truly love.
Literally nobody is expecting him to show off his bf. But his trauma isn’t an excuse to limit other people’s expression. Trying to keep your partner in the closet because of YOUR traumatic coming out story isn’t valid. Jaehyuk DOESNT have to hide his life, and if he no longer wants to then breaking up is clearly the better option.
Ofc breaking up is the better option. It’s different when you’re actively in that mindset. Jaehyuk isn’t wrong for feeling less valued and Garam is wrong for feeling insecure. Both sides have valid reasons for their own opinions, and both sides are making bad decisions to counter it. They’re not understanding the other’s sentiments, but that doesn’t mean one is more to blame than the other. Garam has experienced the horrors of society’s actions towards people who are gay, Jaehyuk not so much. Even if he had he wouldn’t react the same as Garam. Ofc they’re not going to see the perspective of the other.
It’s so frustrating seeing them go in circles lmao just breakup atp or COMMUNICATE
Everyone being on “jaegyuk’s side” this is a complicated topic it’s not just about being together, Garam has past traumas where he trusted a man with his heart and not only did he betrayed him but also exposed him to EVERYONE, his family rejected him and u expect him to be all happy about showing off his boyfriend of MONTHS yes MONTHS now? Like get a grip, he’s still healing and Jaegyuk being pushy and telling him “i don’t have to hide my life like you, should we continue being open or break up” LIKE WHAT, Of course he doesn’t get it he was just straight like five minutes ago, has he grown a lot from that time? YES HE HAS one think doesn’t invalidate the other, but he has to understand that it’s not all about just how he goes through things in his life, they have to deal with this as a couple, so chill with Garam, he’s also growing too and deserves time to do so.