I had a suitor (and kind of a situationship) back way back 2024. We were classmates and part of the same circle of friends. We decided to go our separate ways in October 2024 because of the distance between us after we enrolled in different schools. We talked less and less, and eventually, we call it quits. Then, in December of the same year, he got into a relationship with someone else. After that, we didn't see each other again for almost two years. And of course, I moved on. Then, last February, our circle of friends decided to visit our old adviser. Before going, I remembered a video I saw online that said, "You never really know if you've fully moved on until you see them again." So I went there with two purposes: first, to see our old adviser, and second, to find out if I had truly moved on. When I saw him, I was finally able to confirm that I really had. After visiting our adviser, our friend group decided to catch up and talk about what had been happening in our lives. During the conversation, he mentioned that he had a girlfriend and that they had been together for eight months. (The same girl who he got into relationship [situationship] with in December) Fast forward to May. One of our friends was celebrating her birthday, and our whole circle was invited. That's when we found out that he and his girlfriend had broken up earlier this month. Naturally, everyone became curious and started asking why they broke up. At first, he didn't want to tell us the reason, but our friends kept pestering him about it. Eventually, he told one of our friends. Then, those who didn't know the reason started pestering the ones who did. So one of our friends, with his consent, decided to tell us. She told us that one of the reasons they broke up was because when we saw each other again last February, he realized that he hadn't fully moved on from me. Of course, I was shocked. Devastated, even. After all, he had a girlfriend at that time. When everyone asked how I felt about it, I told them the truth: I was shocked, but I didn't feel anything for him anymore. I also said that it wasn't really my business since I had already moved on. Then one of my close friends asked if I wanted to talk to him—for closure. I agreed because I felt like there were things we both needed to say, especially considering how badly things ended between us. And so we talked. I told him everything I went through during and after our breakup, all the pain and struggles I had to endure because of how things ended. Saying those things out loud felt incredibly freeing. It was like a heavy stone I had been carrying for almost two years had finally been lifted from my chest. I also told him how much of a jerk he was for what he did to his ex-girlfriend because, honestly, I felt terrible for her. No one deserves to be in a relationship with someone who still hasn't moved on from another person. No one deserves to go through that kind of hurt. And you know what's worse? Right after our conversation, his ex-girlfriend messaged him asking if there was still a chance for them to fix their relationship. And honestly? My heart broke for her. I wanted so badly to tell her that she deserves someone better. That she shouldn't have to settle for someone who isn't fully sure of her. That she deserves a love that chooses her completely, without hesitation. When I got home that day, all I could do was pray for her. I prayed that she would heal, and that one day she would realize her worth and never settle for less than the love she truly deserves. and now he added me on my socmed accs ( i don't plan to accept it ofc)
I had a suitor (and kind of a situationship) back way back 2024. We were classmates and part of the same circle of friends. We decided to go our separate ways in October 2024 because of the distance between us after we enrolled in different schools. We talked less and less, and eventually, we call it quits. Then, in December of the same year, he got into a relationship with someone else. After that, we didn't see each other again for almost two years. And of course, I moved on. Then, last February, our circle of friends decided to visit our old adviser. Before going, I remembered a video I saw online that said, "You never really know if you've fully moved on until you see them again." So I went there with two purposes: first, to see our old adviser, and second, to find out if I had truly moved on. When I saw him, I was finally able to confirm that I really had. After visiting our adviser, our friend group decided to catch up and talk about what had been happening in our lives. During the conversation, he mentioned that he had a girlfriend and that they had been together for eight months. (The same girl who he got into relationship [situationship] with in December) Fast forward to May. One of our friends was celebrating her birthday, and our whole circle was invited. That's when we found out that he and his girlfriend had broken up earlier this month. Naturally, everyone became curious and started asking why they broke up. At first, he didn't want to tell us the reason, but our friends kept pestering him about it. Eventually, he told one of our friends. Then, those who didn't know the reason started pestering the ones who did. So one of our friends, with his consent, decided to tell us. She told us that one of the reasons they broke up was because when we saw each other again last February, he realized that he hadn't fully moved on from me. Of course, I was shocked. Devastated, even. After all, he had a girlfriend at that time. When everyone asked how I felt about it, I told them the truth: I was shocked, but I didn't feel anything for him anymore. I also said that it wasn't really my business since I had already moved on. Then one of my close friends asked if I wanted to talk to him—for closure. I agreed because I felt like there were things we both needed to say, especially considering how badly things ended between us. And so we talked. I told him everything I went through during and after our breakup, all the pain and struggles I had to endure because of how things ended. Saying those things out loud felt incredibly freeing. It was like a heavy stone I had been carrying for almost two years had finally been lifted from my chest. I also told him how much of a jerk he was for what he did to his ex-girlfriend because, honestly, I felt terrible for her. No one deserves to be in a relationship with someone who still hasn't moved on from another person. No one deserves to go through that kind of hurt. And you know what's worse? Right after our conversation, his ex-girlfriend messaged him asking if there was still a chance for them to fix their relationship. And honestly? My heart broke for her. I wanted so badly to tell her that she deserves someone better. That she shouldn't have to settle for someone who isn't fully sure of her. That she deserves a love that chooses her completely, without hesitation. When I got home that day, all I could do was pray for her. I prayed that she would heal, and that one day she would realize her worth and never settle for less than the love she truly deserves. and now he added me on my socmed accs ( i don't plan to accept it ofc)