Can we normalise not forgiving your parents when they abuse you your while life?

Sometime, including yano, forgiving someone who hurt us is something that we could do to bring peace to ourself. Yano making peace with his pos dad wont elevate his dad out of mistake that he has done. Its simply his own triumph to overcome the scars that the abuse has left

Spot on , your point is so right, it not about forgiving the father, it about recognising the pain and scars,
Sometimes people tend to avoid the problem, never face it , and make it more worse in the heart and mind even tho the person they need to face is worse than Anything, but yea it about selft improvement