Exactly this!! They are both pushing each others buttons, it's clear, but people see a rough sex where both parties are consenting yet struggling and jump into rape accusations... gosh... and this rough sex here is so consistent with their state of mind, it's tough, it's hard to read and see them like that, but it's a really good writing showing their battles when you still can see how much they care about each other

I don’t know why readers like to throw out accusations when they don’t agree with something. No it’s not abuse, coercion, or assault. They are two consenting adults playing dumb games. Was it rough? Yes. Could it have been better? Yes. Do I wish that it was better? Absolutely.