I didn’t read the novels of Miller family yet. But I also got the vibr that Ashley & Connor didn’t get involved with thier children especially Chase at all. Like who would said something about the bird to a small child like that, plus other major events when they were young.
By the way, I’m struggling to fine the got translated novels of the ‘if you can’. Can you send me links?
I couldn’t find the translation ver from Cherry Mist group.
Your observation is correct but it seems centered towards Chase only.
Chase wasn't the most neglected one. Everyone was neglected equally and protected equally. Ashley didn't paid much attention to Nathaniel as for him Nath was his most normal child. He paid a little more attention to Grayson as he was his demonic child. But in reality it was reverse. Nath was the one who ws similar to Domnic.
Nath and Chase don't bother about contacting the parents but Grayson keeps contacting them and shared all his life things with them even his love life. So the child effort is also there. And he didn't cared about relationship but he was sure that Grayson would hurt Dane. So he tried to make Dane runaway. Ash clearly despised Grayson the most. It was only when they saw him making decisions on his own that they decided to uplift the rules. Lol u cn say that Grayson was finally able to change the parents as well. None other children could do.
Lol I was just looking at the zig omegaverse tree(?) on twitter I came across and came straight here to find this, more information about the miller family! Thank you for this detailed observation on them! It's really sad that all the children except bliss were neglected this much, it's no wonder they're all messed up but do the parents realise at the end how much they failed their children? Or they just narcissistic and never learn that they make mistakes too
The fact that they don't realise their faults is very realistic but still sad lol even so I still wish the author gives them some sort of an arc or even just a scene with them acknowledging their neglect sigh but you can find the family tree here:
https://x.com/i/status/2061385501769150593
Ashley learned his mistakes at the very last in Grayson's story when he saw Grayson making decisions that neither he or Domnic could make. Seeing Grayson doing the things none other could do made Koi to stand up against Ashley for the very first time in all those years. So yeah , Grayson was the one who finally changed their parents.

I completed all of them.
Let me start with Ashley and Connor relationship {I won't speak much on Dominic and Ashley Juliet relationship because they are self explanatory being toxic and worst story}. Ashley and Connor was a good and positive relationship I enjoyed them at their high school the most. But I have so many complaints of them as Parents, it became super evident of how bad parents they both were from "Deflower me if you can". Let's start
= Chase - Chase was the most neglected in the family, it's truly evident from all the interactions present in the story. Ashley completely devoted his love towards Bliss cause he Bliss looked like connor and other 5 of his children looked like him and Dominic, which led to him being strict and not feeling love towards any of his other children it's just bad parenting when you completely isolate your children. While reading I felt chase might be the most disconnected person even from Koi it's evident even Connor doesn't have much affection for Chase. Ashley and Connor took care of Nathaniel, Grayson and Stacy at start more and Nathaniel grew estranged after the poisoned food incident more and they isolated Chase completely after that, Ashley and connor always fret over Grayson's Psychological Emotional deficiency problem, looked after stacy and showered love on Bliss. Ashley favoritism shows very evidentally towards Bliss. Nathaniel showed cold shoulder to Chase, Stacy used to beat Chase and many others. No one took care of gave a glance towards chase and the one who did and took care of Chase was Grayson I was surprised the only person to care in the family for chase is the emotional deficit person which didn't reap good results sadly leading for a lifelong traumatization. Imagine how bad parents must they be the only person who took care of your child was Grayson. While reading Grayson does harm chase but at the same time seems to care in his own twisted ways and loves him (yeah I don't believe it but he does care), the facts like only Grayson looked after chase's pheromones whereas no one in the family didn't give much glance, if Grayson didn't take care of Chase's pheremones I think we would'nt have had our sweet boy sadly.
= Nathaniel - Ashley is a psychotic person to treat Nathaniel with such estranged and hostile eyes towards your own born son like he posses both yours and your spouse connor's blood and you get jealous of Nathaniel being close to his own blood birth Father. Ashley needs a psychologist I always get the eww of MLs who are jealous of their own children. Then ashley also abandoned most of Nathaniel childhood too but koi did take care of Nathaniel for sometime but Nathaniel knew that his father Ashley gets jealous so he himself estranged from connor, also Ashley sending your young child I don't know what was his age but he was very young child to an orgy how much trauma does he has to take. It was nice that Nathaniel also moved little from the family and there are other factors too.
= Grayson - Grayson awakened as a dominant Alpha early and has that problem of emotional and empathy deficiency. Ashley handled it bad with Grayson, after the incident of 8 year old Grayson adding Cleaning agent into the food of connor as connor said he can't taste or smell food, which led grayson to be curious as evident as a child and adds it to test if connor is saying the truth leading a huge complication and connor almost dying. Ashley was stunned that all 3 of his children aka Nathaniel, Stacy and Grayson just stood there while their own mother connor was dying infront of them and didn't call for help, connor was saved thankfully ashley coming at the right time. The way ashley strangled Grayson to death and only stopping when he saw resemblance of Connor in Grayson, Ashley has ptsd from his father Dominic and Grayson seems to resemble exactly like Dominic like a carbon copy and Grayson always triggers ptsd in Ashley, It's understandable it's hard because he resembles your father but that doesn't mean you can strangled an eight year old kid and Grayson was hospitalized with serious complications it's sad. Then later after this incident Ashley seperated his children from Connor, Ashley gave a very hard regime and rules for Grayson with punishment which was borderline child abuse. Grayson didn't cross line after that and started to Imitate and do exactly as he is told by Ashley, he never attacks first and only uses self defence as thought by Ashley and everything we see of Grayson is based on ashley instructions. Ashley and connor both gave up trying to teach Grayson any emotions after trying their best which I understand the struggle. But Grayson wants to be close with his siblings and parents so he tries to do some pranks which were very harsh pranks and led to problems, so he just needs right guidance in love, help and social interactions which ashley failed to provide well. So he was lonely and searched for his fated partner to feel emotions in his life like his parents. For Ashley to accept and care for Grayson, he needs Grayson to learn how emotions work from Dane and after that Ashley started to like and care about Grayson and started to see connor resemblance more to like Grayson, Ashley you 2 decades late to start care about your child.
= Stacy and her sister (it starts from L but I forgot) - Stacy is what I might call is a milder Grayson we don't see much of her but she is messed up too. As for the other Sister L she is a Wanted criminal which we can guess is also by the neglect of the parents which led to this problem and messed up the life I didn't find much information other than that she has 8 or 9 wives.
= Bliss - The only person in the family who was not traumatized or has had bad experience. Because he resembled Connor so much Ashley loved him and cherished bliss which we see it in "Deflower me if you can". Bliss loves his siblings and his parents very much and he cannot take someone abusing his brothers or sisters. Nathaniel and Grayson took care of Bliss too because Nathaniel who gave cold shoulder to Chase but looked after bliss so well. There is a lot of cameos of others in his story showing him being cherished by Stacy too. He is like teh golden child. Ashley wanted only one child who will resemble Connor but connor wanted 12 children and they stopped having children only after bliss because he looked like connor and that's what Ashley wanted so he has love overflowing for Bliss. Grayson also looked after and cherished Bliss. It's like all the neglected love was poured towards Bliss sadly.
Ashley and Connor if you guys couldn't look after 6 children then you should have stopped after Grayson and Stacy cause it left a very bad problems to your family. I don't know, I think everyone in the family just hates or blatantly ignores Chase except Grayson somehow he does care for chase in his twisted psychological ways. Ashley and connor started to love Grayson and Dane relationship and supported them so much which shows them being involved in Grayson life a lot and cares about him, ashley who is madly protective of Connor let connor use his pheremones on Dane to heal Dane which he would have never allowed in any circumstances, showing that Ashley cares about Grayson and his future. I think in the family they only care about Bliss, Grayson and maybe Stacy too whereas other childrens are just on their own to fend.