Okay but real talk (tldr don’t neglect your children)

As someone who had a hands off experience with my parents, don’t do that. As parents, you should be there for your kid whether they want it or not. They can choose to come to you but YOU have to be there for them to come to you. So many things happened in my life and I had no one to turn to because my parents preferred to get on with their own lives. I was an alcoholic at 12 and a sex addict at 13. I was smoking when I was 11 and tried weed when I was 13. I had a miscarriage and experienced SA around that time too. My parents to this day know nothing about any of it. Because they weren’t there and they never asked. I will never ever get over my resentment and hatred towards them for not being there. They weren’t there for me when my grandparents died either. So as someone who’s been in the not even unique situation of being totally neglected as a kid by “hands off parents”, please don’t do this to your kids. Don’t let them fill your void with whatever is closest. Because bad people WILL take advantage of the gap you leave and they WILL weasel their way in and harm your child. Don’t let your children grow up into adults like me who use anime and yaoi to comfort them because they are too scared of other humans and too scared of their own weaknesses to vices. Do better.