Ikr! I’ve been saying this for ages. You don’t dom while angry! You don’t dom to get answers. You don’t dom to interrogate. Doing that makes your sub distrust you and it ruins good play. I loved the start but now? I’m just so disappointed in the authors take on what BDSM relationships look like. True romantic BDSM partners would NEVER use something they love (bdsm) in place of true communication when the whole spirit of BDSM IS communication. I’m so glad more people are seeing it and speaking up about it. I know they are fictional but the amount of people who copy what they see in media is insane and it’s WHY we have such poor representation to begin with! We get shitty porn with sex traffickers and 50 shades of grey with a narcissistic sadist who isn’t even a sexy sadist but a “I want to see you in pain” sadist. It’s important to speak up!
Can you drop some recommendations for some healthy ones
Don’t be shy, drop the healthy recommendations twin
Exactly!! Normally I try not to let it bother me cuz I know I already know theyre gonna ruin what d/s actually is for kinks sake, but, from what Ive seen so far, this author is probably portraying this as a "healthy and good" d/s dynamic, regardless of whether thats intentional or unintentional (thats how most people are taking it), and like you said, alot of people are just gonna copy what they see on here without thought or further research and thats just not okay! Not only is it gonna create problems for the actual d/s community, but also could seriously lead someone to hurt their partner!! So yeah I really hope author fixes the dynamics.
Some good manhwa recs where the d/s dynamic is actually decent/good:
1. Aporia. Its one of my personal favs tho its not perfect either.
2. The side couple in BJ alex.
3.Playroom actually has a really good dom and is one of my personal favs.
4. Kabukicho bad trip
5. A man of Virtue.
I guess I've been reading way too many healthy dom/sub dynamic fanfics recently, because this is throwing me off.
Usually, I try to turn the analytical part of my brain off while reading stuff like this, cuz most of the time theyre so blatantly misrepresenting this stuff that I can easily just be like 'yeah this is clearly fiction, lets not use my brain for this one'.
But i didnt think Id have to bring that kind of mindset to this manhwa because so far, the author had been doing a pretty good job of representing a health dom/sub dynamic. I really hope they try to fix the dynamic and take it back into a healthier light.
The very necessity of a good d/s relationship/dynamic is communication. It is the core fundamental and CANNOT be compromised. The author was going decent-ish in the first season with this, but the second one is just completely off. I mean, that maid scene?? The dom using that as a means to talk rather than actually communicating with their sub?? No good dom would do that, especially not with a sub who's so new to the scene and is still discovering his limits and preferences.
And this recent chapter?? Again the same thing. A scene is never supposed to be you taking your anger out on your sub or throwing your weight around like that. Thats just plain stupid. And also, a sub isnt supposed to feel inadequate or fearful like that. So, i really do hope this can go back towards a healthier light soon.