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i think it’s more he views himself as a protector and provider and he wants the ml to live a comfortable worry free life therefore he takes care of everything without informing the ml because he doesn’t want him to deal with the hardships. not saying he’s in the right for keeping ml in the dark, just that that is his perspective on things.

It feels like the seme sees him as an object and not a human. Or like a pet to take care of. You wouldn’t do that to someone you really care for. Like the seme doesn’t see him uke as someone worth discussing things with.