Dih aside! This is genuinely so stressful and so well written. Making assumptions about the future, making assumption and trying to control how the other person feel, actually just straight up telling the other person how to feel certain things etc. thinking that it’s better not to start a relationship, especially if it ends badly. Putting someone on a pedestal when they just see you as an equal is also rooted in heavy avoid attachment issues and insecurity. Denying your own feelings and in the process hurting the other person, but also not being so straightforward with them because you actually don’t dislike them. But making them carry the burden and responsibility for a relationship because you’re a coward is kinda crazy. I feel so irritated cause I’ve been that person before (though I wouldn’t say it as extremely) and it haunt me so badly that I still think about the person that I’ve hurt all because I was trying to protect myself and had I thought it was protecting them. I’ve also been on the inverse where somebody tried to put me on a pedestal and let me tell you, it feels so empty because the other person doesn’t actually see you for you. This is insane. I think I’m gonna have to drop this from my own sanity, but this is really good story.
Dih aside! This is genuinely so stressful and so well written. Making assumptions about the future, making assumption and trying to control how the other person feel, actually just straight up telling the other person how to feel certain things etc. thinking that it’s better not to start a relationship, especially if it ends badly. Putting someone on a pedestal when they just see you as an equal is also rooted in heavy avoid attachment issues and insecurity. Denying your own feelings and in the process hurting the other person, but also not being so straightforward with them because you actually don’t dislike them. But making them carry the burden and responsibility for a relationship because you’re a coward is kinda crazy. I feel so irritated cause I’ve been that person before (though I wouldn’t say it as extremely) and it haunt me so badly that I still think about the person that I’ve hurt all because I was trying to protect myself and had I thought it was protecting them. I’ve also been on the inverse where somebody tried to put me on a pedestal and let me tell you, it feels so empty because the other person doesn’t actually see you for you. This is insane. I think I’m gonna have to drop this from my own sanity, but this is really good story.