This was so...human. Both sides are justifiable, but I'd really like to drive this one home, because the author really didn't touch on it much again:
Yugun stated at the very beginning that he doesn’t like being touched because he doesn’t want people noticing his weight/thinness and immediately treating him like he’s weak. I didn't take that as a random character quirk; honestly, that's a full blown trigger.
Now Ian’s fear makes sense. Emotionally, 100% yes. He watched Yugun collapse in front of him, had his whole soul exit through the emergency door, and now every possible “risk” probably sounds like death knocking because anxiety is eating him alive.
But fear does not give him veto power over Yugun’s life. Period.
And this is exactly where Yugun’s trigger matters. He's said he hates being handled like something breakable. He does not want his body, weight, thinness, weakness, illness, whatever, to become the first thing people see when they touch him or make decisions around him. So Ian going strict/protective mode about the bee farm is not landing as love, it’s landing like: you don’t trust me, you see me as fragile, you think my future has to be approved by your fear.
Also, “my parents already agreed to let me go” is such a loaded line because Yugun is basically saying: the people with actual authority over me said yes, so why are *you* acting like you have final say? And Ian kind of was.
I've been waiting for this to be an issue. Ian's inner archetype role of caretaker + Yugun's glass-child syndrome. These are big things that could really shape the entire relationship ina good or bad way in the future.
Also besties, the unhealed version of me is screamingggg in Yandere Ian. Tell me he is not perfectly coded for it. I honestly would kill for a messy AU where this is unleashed lol. Veruca-Salt
This was so...human. Both sides are justifiable, but I'd really like to drive this one home, because the author really didn't touch on it much again:
Yugun stated at the very beginning that he doesn’t like being touched because he doesn’t want people noticing his weight/thinness and immediately treating him like he’s weak. I didn't take that as a random character quirk; honestly, that's a full blown trigger.
Now Ian’s fear makes sense. Emotionally, 100% yes. He watched Yugun collapse in front of him, had his whole soul exit through the emergency door, and now every possible “risk” probably sounds like death knocking because anxiety is eating him alive.
But fear does not give him veto power over Yugun’s life. Period.
And this is exactly where Yugun’s trigger matters. He's said he hates being handled like something breakable. He does not want his body, weight, thinness, weakness, illness, whatever, to become the first thing people see when they touch him or make decisions around him. So Ian going strict/protective mode about the bee farm is not landing as love, it’s landing like: you don’t trust me, you see me as fragile, you think my future has to be approved by your fear.
Also, “my parents already agreed to let me go” is such a loaded line because Yugun is basically saying: the people with actual authority over me said yes, so why are *you* acting like you have final say? And Ian kind of was.
I've been waiting for this to be an issue. Ian's inner archetype role of caretaker + Yugun's glass-child syndrome. These are big things that could really shape the entire relationship ina good or bad way in the future.