Just made a similar realisation and had the same thoughts...I picked this up again after several years. I was very immature back then, the first time I've read it...I found everything and everyone annoying, didn't quite understand many things. Funnily years later - and being more mature now I was able to see the story and the characters in a different perspective and was able to relate/understand their actions and feeling. Felt very real. Interesting how life and what you're going through can shape your way of thinking. Loved this story, it put me on such a rollercoaster many times and was fully able to put myself in their shoes.
Yes, I agree with you. Now that I'm on their shoes, i felt like I'm put on the spot and lost on what to do. If I was back then, I could just spout some BS on what to do, but now it's very different hahaha.
I hope everything is going smoothly for you, and I'm rooting for you to find balance. Not always easy when we have to jiggle with so many things and responsibilities.
I'm on the single side for a while, that also gave me another perspective reading this - in my case someone supporting me while dealing with hardships would be good for example. It's good to be independent, and I worked hard for it...but some days I wish there was someone besides me in challenging times. ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶
I've read this way, way back then, and at that time, I was still kind of childish. My perspective on things was limited because I was younger. Now that I read it again, I realized how immature I was back then. I couldn't fully understand everyone in this story. I thought they were being selfish and only thinking about themselves. But now, I see it in a different light. Maybe because I've matured, my perspective has broadened, and I've had my fair share of similar experiences, I can finally say that I understand them, and I can relate.
It's really hard to choose between career and love. That's a question that a lot of people avoid answering because there's no easy answer. Some would choose their career, while others would choose love. But what I admire about this story is how it showed that your career can have more weight in your life, but that doesn't mean you have to stop pursuing love.
They chose to do the things they wanted to do while still having the support of the people who loved them. As someone who's currently building my own career, I think they're lucky to have someone who understands and supports them. And maybe that's the most important thing — finding a way to have both: a career that fulfills you and a love that supports you.
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