i may be apathetic but surely it gets to a point where even if your “loved one” abuses you, there’s gotta be a line at some point
Oh i totally agree Cheol should not be with his family or his Minyoung
Not to trauma dump, but I was in a very similar place as Cheol for 23 years. Parental abuse that came in physical, sexual, psychological, financial, and emotional forms to the extreme. When you suffer for years in a state like that, where it feels so normalized by the closest people around you, your literal family, it creates a barrier around the family unit. Well meaning friends were pushed away because they didn’t “understand” us. There’s a mentality and brokenness that comes with it where you are essentially a puppet “living” without any motivations, thoughts, or feelings that are your own. Especially once “love” gets mixed in.
All of that to say, abuse victim brains will go to some pretty extreme lengths to survive - even if it means justifying the abuse, normalizing it, becoming desensitized to it.
Getting married to an abuser who isolated me from the ironically helped me realize how trash my family really was. And years later when I left him, I was able to start healing step by step and piece by piece. I unfortunately understand Cheol all too well.
well i’m glad you’ve realised that they are trash and eventually moved on tho
I'm so sorry you had to go through so much suffering and heartbreak all by yourself for all those years, and am glad to hear you're healing now slowly but surely i hope the future holds a lot of peace and joy for you
I am proud of you and all that you have done to survive. I understand it very well as well, being someone that had very similar experiences I understand is hard not only the situation outside but how one feels inside. In my case i felt i deserved it and thus it was very hard to let go, i did after attempting some regretful actions towards myself which thankfully I am better now and it has been 6 years already of being better.
I guess part of my rant towards Cheol is that I am mad he still hasn’t let go, but he is a character and the story is still ongoing and like so, he might not have acted out in the past but there is still a future to look forward to
Sending you a lot of strength
Kinda glad they told us what he did at the beginning of the flashbacks. Tbh i think both are mentally unstable and suffocating in their own way, see it from this perspective.
*I will not pick apart Minyoung because all of you have done a great job at it. I will pick apart Cheol.*
Minyoung has been seeing for almost 3 to 5 years the only person he has ever loved be beat down and abused by his family while he legit does nothing, Cheol has been able to escape a lot of times and he has not. He keeps holding on to his abusers as much as they hold onto him. We can even see it as an adult almost 30 year old and he is still being beat up by his family. HIS BROTHER ATTEMPTED TO KILL HIM and he still has not severed ties with him. Idk what Cheol was waiting and the outcome with his family he was expecting but loving someone and see them fall apart and almost die would drive anyone insane mostly someone that was already insane.