So I was in a somewhat similar 3p situationship once. I was in a throuple, dating a previously established couple (both women). Eventually, I found out one person(we'll say Ashley) wanted to have threesomes and open the relationship, where as the other (we'll go with DJ) did not. Ashley turned out to be a very manipulative and disingenuous person, so naturally I started clinging to DJ instead. This created a lot of jealousy for Ashley, which was ironic considering how she bragged in the beginning about being incapable of jealousy. DJ and I ended up hooking up behind her back a lot, even through Ashley requested we didn't. Don't get me wrong, the sneaky dynamic was HOT AF, but I'm not a psycho so of course I had remorse for my actions. Eventually, I told DJ I was leaving the relationship all together, and that's when she confessed to the abuse she had been experiencing from Ashley over the past 6 years. Y'all, this woman had scars from where Ashley had STABBED her in the past with an actual knife. DJ begged me to take her with me and help her leave Ashley, so naturally I did. I would be lying if I said there weren't nights where I lied awake, terrified Ashley was going to break into the house and murder us both in our sleep. DJ and I stayed together for almost a year after that, but we ultimately weren't romantically compatible at that time and decided to stay friends while she moved back home across the country.
So I was in a somewhat similar 3p situationship once. I was in a throuple, dating a previously established couple (both women). Eventually, I found out one person(we'll say Ashley) wanted to have threesomes and open the relationship, where as the other (we'll go with DJ) did not. Ashley turned out to be a very manipulative and disingenuous person, so naturally I started clinging to DJ instead. This created a lot of jealousy for Ashley, which was ironic considering how she bragged in the beginning about being incapable of jealousy. DJ and I ended up hooking up behind her back a lot, even through Ashley requested we didn't. Don't get me wrong, the sneaky dynamic was HOT AF, but I'm not a psycho so of course I had remorse for my actions. Eventually, I told DJ I was leaving the relationship all together, and that's when she confessed to the abuse she had been experiencing from Ashley over the past 6 years. Y'all, this woman had scars from where Ashley had STABBED her in the past with an actual knife. DJ begged me to take her with me and help her leave Ashley, so naturally I did. I would be lying if I said there weren't nights where I lied awake, terrified Ashley was going to break into the house and murder us both in our sleep. DJ and I stayed together for almost a year after that, but we ultimately weren't romantically compatible at that time and decided to stay friends while she moved back home across the country.