What's that? I thought everyone had it? (The reflexe muscles i mean, like isn't it the same for everyone?) Mb if i got thinhs wrong it's just i think it's normal or i might have that too
I had the same, four years in a relationship, never did it, i tried but wasnt possible, the pain was too much. Met a new person, 2 dates and we were at it, super easy and painless.
No it’s a traumatic reaction which is really painful and doesn’t allow anything to enter … it’s deadass so fking painful that it’s not normal and people with severe pain need to see a doctor at some stages …me personally i tried it with a tampon and failed completely
Yes i heard you really have to be comfortable with your partner ..me myself i’m not scared of the idea of sex with the person i love, rather it’s more about the tight muscle tissue that I have
Make sure to find a person very passionate about foreplay and that is okay with not giving penetration for several tries. Yeah, this is the bare minimum, but we know how people are irl, so making sure you get a pretty patient person will make you not lose time with someone that will try to pressure you. I personally talked to my bf about it pretty early
The fact that this reminded me that i have vaginismus … and my first time won‘t be looking like this or as easy going is driving me crazy…fk everything