Straight

I saw some people saying that the ml treated the mc horribly, like he just left for mc's and his wellbeing, he didn't know any better, I enjoyed this manhwa so much and it is one of my favorites and also I prefer the ml more than the mc cause I resonate so much with him, I dont understand how people can talk so bad about him ignoring all his childhood trauma and they would be the same women who would read and enjoy jinx, pearl boy, painter of the night and other manhwas that contain SA, grape

right like i thought i was going insane, these people have to remember these are men living in an incredibly conservative country.

How can u assume everyone criticizing him is straight? As someone who queer, has dealt with religious views, vitriol, etc.
I’m critiquing this bottom from this point of view which I get some/many people won’t fully agree with becuz we all deal with shit differently but - some of us grew from the trauma without help or hurting others in the process.

The way this bottom not only already had the bar low, but he just keeps it low is so frustrating.

People view a characters actions with their own standards and morals - and while you bring up a good argument, you are ASSUMING on people critiquing something they’ve consumed in their own way.

Anyway, each to their own opinion on how they digest a story. Some people like it, some don’t.

Congrats on dealing with your trauma flawlessly I guess? Not everyone is a flawless, perfect victim. People deal with trauma imperfectly all the time and yes, even hurting people while dealing with your trauma doesn't make you a bad person in any way. I tend to think more in terms of bad actions instead of labeling the actors as bad people as a lot of these comments are. Also, I never said all the comments criticizing the bottom were straight women. I was always criticizing the comments that were dismissing the bottoms trauma as insignificant or trivialising it by pretending that ongoing physical abuse from his father since he was a child was somehow equal to a heterosexual man dumping his girlfriend randomly (like a lot of these comments were syaing). Also, if it doesn't apply to you, move on, the comment isn't obviously about you.

First off, you generalized in your own comment the criticisms of this character as “straight women” and here I’m quoting from your comment: “ I get uncomfortable about how straight BL readers talk about queer struggles and dismiss the actual traumatic abuse that is afflicted on queer kids.” taking into CONTEXT (CONTEXT) that you, above this, said that BL was written by straight women FOR STRAIGHT WOMEN.

Second off, i didn’t want to make it too winded, but I legit said “I get not a lot of people will agree with this take-“ but let me add more to it since the pt pissed. I meant, I get people won’t agree with the way others critique this bottom dealing with his traumas considering their perspective on a personal/empathetic level.

The reason people seem dismissive of his trauma is because the way he went about it, to many, was just a dick move. No one (or at least not a lot of people) is saying that his traumas aren’t valid - but by god he was older than him and at some point you have got to grow - and it seemed like he still STILL had to grow some after trying to conform. Is it easy? No it’s not, but is it possible to do so before facing someone you arbitrarily did dirty? Yeah. Hopefully.

You’re right about it not being the biggest deal - move on, but it’s a discussion board. You’ll get people disagreeing and agreeing all the time. No harm to it.