She was set on going to America anyway! Did you skip the part she said that? He treated her like trash the day he asked her to suck him (I doubt he expected her to actually do it, but I guess she was already feeling guilty and thought it was one way to atone herself). He specified that he did that so she wouldn’t feel guilty about going away.
( is it completely irrational thinking? Yes! Did it work? Clearly yes, since she went to America and ghosted him completely.
Now, does the phone works both ways? Yes, but since he is going through a life changing crisis, in between surgeries, having to renounce to going to America, his dream of being a basketball player and even only the injury by itself, is it expected that she might be in a better position than him and contact him still first? I believe it is. Not to excuse bad behavior, but most times, people who are forced to renounce to their dreams due to injury are miserable, so, if while miserable he decided to still care the girl he likes and his best friend by pushing her to not renounce to her dreams and feel guilty about him, I believe that after some cooldown period, she should have reached back at least to check in him.
Yet again that would be too much to accept from someone who almost completely cut off her family upon discovering that she is adopted.
Also, communication goes both way she can’t expect to act like every thing is fine and nothing happened after ten years of actively avoiding him, like come on…
I’m kinda confused with the first paragraph bc I did say that? And yes, that is smth only an asshat could think of. It was all consensual, I’ll give it that, but it’s about the expressions on his face when he talks to her and us being aware that she doesn’t know everything we know about him. She has her reason for cutting off contact, but where is his reason for why he didn’t contact her? Guilt? All the more reason he should contact first. How is she supposed to know that he had reasoning behind his actions that day and not that he has that kind of personality. And just because he had reasoning behind his actions that only us readers know doesn’t make it anymore okay.
And it’s not about who’s in the better position, it’s about who is in the wrong and should make amends first. Hypothetical situation, but I wouldn’t tell a person to forgive their abuser just bc the person has more money or is in a better place atm.
I actually think the opposite, he was the one who hurt her that day so why should she be the one to reach out first and apologize? Could she have asked him why he did that instead of ghosting? Yes, but that shouldn’t be her job or responsibility.
You could say the opposite for the car accident but the difference is that that was an accident and this was on purpose and his choice, and she was actually there to support him while he was hurt then, yet she doesn’t even get an apology now. Instead, he waits on the swing every time he hears she’s in Korea for the chance over a period of 10yrs that they might meet instead of knocking on the door, and they only meet by chance again bc she came out first.
Her finding out she’s adopted is also smth life changing, maybe not as severe as his but enough to affect her wellbeing. I think it’s poor choices from inexperienced kids that had unfortunate things happen to them, but now they are 29yrs old and I have less leniency towards them now for things that happened 10 yrs ago, and now she has another life changing experience cause her mom has cancer! But he is also 29yrs, 10 yrs past his injury which I think is plenty of time for him find a new path, which he did, but still not able to keep his feelings in check and not see that what he did both in his past and now treatment has hurt her. If someone hurts me, I’m not going to think about the reasoning behind it, and even if I do find out the reason, it doesn’t change the fact I got hurt. I’m just not seeing what’s so lovable about the ml
Sorry for the handful of words and I’m not hoping to change your perspective but I’m giving the justification behind mine. Now we’re only 6 chs in, I think there is plenty of room for character development on both of them and I’m interested enough in the story to see how they are going to mend their relationship and room for me to come to like the ml. But this is mostly just for those who are hating on the fl but calling the ml lovable, bc it’s just a little hypocritical to me.
What is everyone else reading?? Lovable? He literally said yeah I treated her like shit so she can move on to America and then gets confused when she doesn’t want to talk to him anymore. Even worse is he’s still treating her like shit 10yrs later wo even realizing it and saying why did she even come back as if her mom having terminal cancer isn’t reason enough; fl may lack boundaries but props to her cause she’s still trying to mend the relationship after everything. The phone works both ways, he also could’ve sent a msg.