No you’re not mistaken. Once you turn your brain on (I don’t mean this as an insult) you realize a lot of the “cute” stories are actually disgusting. It’s the same thing as sitcoms painting horrible and abusive characters as lovable and silly by using bright colors and slapping a laugh track over it. This is basically the Yaoi equivalent to that phenomenon.
I think it’s less about me “shutting off my brain” and more that I was conditioned to see it as okay. A lot of these stories will show something genuinely horrendous, but then the characters act sweet afterward or the story frames it as romantic, so you start to accept that this is how it’s supposed to go. The presentation makes you overlook how messed up the actual situation is. I know this is just a comment section, but I felt like I needed to say this because of everyone’s replies so far. This has honestly been very eye-opening.

Am I tripping, or is this just harassment and sexual assault dressed up as romance? I genuinely don't understand the writing choice here. The exact same personalities, chemistry, and relationship dynamic could exist between two consenting adults, and the story would lose... what, exactly