It depends. Younger top and older bottom can be icky too. It isn’t gross when the age gap is deal properly.
Night of the Unmarked: 10 years gap. Their family are very close, did Muheun prey on the Young Seungjoo? No. Did he develop romantic feelings with him while he’s a kid? No. Seungjoo develop feelings for Muheun , did Muheun accepted it? No. In fact he runaway. He move out and work somewhere away from the MC.
That is just one example.

But don't u guys find it creepy when he literally watch or maybe like know him when he's still a kid? Don't people who read those kind of story find it icky? Gross???(・ω・)