The author did say that Ian is the worst of the 3 but your judgement of him is way too harsh. Jo knew Ian was still in love with TJ. And he said he didn’t care and only knew he wanted Ian. Ian told Jo from the start that he only wanted something casual. Jo couldn’t accept it. After Ian tried to end things with him, Jo insisted on being his friend. Then insisted on being his fuck buddy. It has always been Jo pushing for something more than Ian could give him. Ian was abused and neglected as a child. Raped and exploited as a teen. He found his self worth with other’s obsession with him. It started with TJ and it continued with Jo, but he was always honest with Jo, Jo said he wouldn’t demand all of Ian’s time and attention. Jo knew Ian was lonely after TJ’s disappearance and used it to his advantage by never leaving Ian's side. They had a surface level relationship, never diving deeper beyond just physical intimacy. Jo knew his place in Ian’s heart because he was scared to tell Ian he got accepted into college. And he acknowledged it again during their “breakup” chapter. You were never fully present when we were together. Ian tried to forget TJ. He tried to love Jo back but he couldn’t. Jo knew this was the outcome. What if Ian doesn’t come? I knew this was gonna happen but I didn’t think it would hurt like this. Like listen to your boy Jo and accept their relationship for what it is. A situationship at best. And hold Jo accountable for his own actions of pursing a man who was still in love with another! Jo played a game he was bound to lose.
Like exactly hold his ass accountable too because he knows what he was getting into with full warning from Ian and he still did it but you really can't expect Jo stan to comprehend anything else besides Jo = good, TJ = Bad , Ian = slut blah blah blah.
jo=good tj=good ian=slut
And you're a retard just like Jo
It’s really scary that people can have empathy for Jo (the most privileged person in the story) and not the one person that’s been abused and suffered most of his life and can’t find a sliver of empathy for him. In their eyes he’ll only be a slut. SMH
Can't sugar coat it anymore. Retard, no reading comprehension and a superiority complex because they stan the apparently "innocent and was just in love character" they're more likely to sluthsame the women TJ slept with rather than TJ himself that's how selective they are.
The way y'all act like Jo chasing Ian was beautiful and endearing is wild cz it was bird brain biology through and through. He always knew Ian was there for the sex and he thought if he pushed harder Ian would miraculously forget his 20 year old love and chose him. It's arrogance and ignorance on his part. When someone shows you they ain't serious about you, you don't go to their apartment and camp there you leave them alone. Jo overestimated his place in Ian's life and that's all on him. Imagine being ready to lose yourself for a situationship that is months old. None of that was ever normal. Y'all are just delusional that you forget love takes time bcz emotional connections don't just happen overnight. It sucks that y'all regurgitate sexist and homophobic rhetoric cz you can't deal with the fact that Jo just wasn't it for Ian and he knew that. Something he admits. You'd rather point fingers at Ian and tj than just accept your fave was dumb.
Preach!!! The way that Jo Stan over romanticize their situationship too. Like none of that shit was romantic. And they never took it beyond physical intimacy. There was literally no depth to their relationship. Ian never opened up to Jo. Jo literally learned nothing new about Ian during their cohabitation. Who did Ian open up to about his past and his abusive childhood. It was fucken Toby!!! Toby got to know more about Ian than jo ever did and that should tell you everything about the Joian ship.
A lot of bl manhwa fans don't know the difference between fucking and courtship that leads to love. Jo and Ian fucked and fucked and that was it. They had near zero emotional intimacy. Ian wanted dick and Jo didn't want to ever know anything about Ian beyond what he saw. By the time he wants more Ian had already ended things with him. And this is before the true end of their relationship in 98. They performed love and that's it. And it's absolutely wild that Toby and Ian had better emotional investment than joian. That just goes to show you how Toby and Ian's relationship held more water than whatever joian was doing. Toby and Ian remain friends even after all the shit that happened.
That’s because Toby had no ulterior motives with Ian. She was a true friend to him. She tried to understand him. She sympathized with his struggles of homophobia. She wasn’t scared to rock the boat by asking questions about his past. Ian said so himself that he reveals too much when he’s with Jo, but Jo stopped asking Ian questions about himself. No where did you get this scar from? No is there any meaning behind your tattoos? No why is TJ your only family member, what happened to your parent? When Ian said he can’t take sleeping pills, Jo just grabbed him and said I don’t believe you!!! He never asked why can’t you take sleeping pills. Like bro had no interest in getting to know Ian on a deeper level. And that’s not how you build emotional intimacy.
Exactly this man didn't want to know anything about Ian that would involve TJ cz his other character arc was just being envious of Ian and tj's relationship. He straight up believe he could overwrite Ian's whole life with their flimsy situationship
everyone's fighting over tj vs jo but the real problem is ian. he's the one jumping from dick to dick and leaving destruction behind. jo was ready to give ian everything and ian knew it. he still chose to toy with his feelings and then dipped. that's not being confused or exploring himself. he's a manipulative slut who keeps everyone on a leash and doesn't care who gets hurt in the process. it feels like he enjoys having options and keeping people attached while he figures out what he wants. worst character in the story