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Just started on Dating Apps and I‘m already tired

JJ2006 July 16, 2026 7:32 pm

Dear people of Mangago,
am I the only one who‘s tired of DatingApps?
Would be cool to hear about your good/bad experiences.

I‘m male 19 and I‘ve finally brought up the courage to create myself a profile on Bumble (I‘ve never been on any app before). btw I‘m gay.

After swiping profiles for what felt like hours, I noticed that there aren‘t ANY profiles that nearly match my taste. Don‘t judge me but 50 percent of guys don‘t even look like guys. Sometimes I swipe right just out of pity and in hope that anything happens.
Yesterday, I matched with a cute guy. However, he already has dating experience and I‘m not sure if he‘s a top or a bottom (or versatile?). Today, I messaged him first and it has been more than 4 hours without a reply from him.
All the other guys I matched with are way too old for me. Or would you consider 28 and above as normal? Even when I have a match, I would ALWAYS have to message first. Does no one has balls nowadays?

Kinda sad and angry right now so please don‘t kill me with your reply (if even someone replies to that). I wrote all this because I was crashing out and chatgpt isn‘t much of an dating-advice-expert.
Also: If you know a gay dating app that‘s good, please let me know
(づ ̄ ³ ̄)づ

Responses
    CuteCoffin July 16, 2026 7:40 pm

    Hy dear. I’m 26/F. I never had dating apps. To be honest, nowadays finding somebody is just as hard like finding job or peace of mind. Try clubbing or the BOO date app, I heard that one is really good.

    CUKAI July 16, 2026 8:19 pm
    Hy dear. I’m 26/F. I never had dating apps. To be honest, nowadays finding somebody is just as hard like finding job or peace of mind. Try clubbing or the BOO date app, I heard that one is really good. CuteCoffin

    Has clubbing and BOO worked for you and do people really go clubbing in the hopes of finding someone

    JJ2006 July 16, 2026 8:22 pm
    Hy dear. I’m 26/F. I never had dating apps. To be honest, nowadays finding somebody is just as hard like finding job or peace of mind. Try clubbing or the BOO date app, I heard that one is really good. CuteCoffin

    Thank you for your reply! I haven’t heard about it before but I‘ll try BOO out. Clubbing isn‘t really my thing though

    Kitty July 16, 2026 9:05 pm

    Hi im F/20, i’ve tried dating apps aswell and to be honest the men are..well. I used tinder and bumble and some of them were fun to talk to but you definitely have to be careful. I went on 3 dates with this guy, but i ended it because he was acting very immature. After i ended things he found my address and went to my house begging for me to come back to him.

    CUKAI July 16, 2026 10:13 pm
    Hi im F/20, i’ve tried dating apps aswell and to be honest the men are..well. I used tinder and bumble and some of them were fun to talk to but you definitely have to be careful. I went on 3 dates with this g... Kitty

    Lmaooo poor guy why do you think he was immature also 3 dates are a lot you guys were basically dating

    Kitty July 16, 2026 11:40 pm
    Lmaooo poor guy why do you think he was immature also 3 dates are a lot you guys were basically dating CUKAI

    Well we weren’t official, and he was immature in a sense because he would basically spam text me while i was working. He didnt have a job vus he was in college. But i repeatedly told him like dude, u cant do this while im at work lmao. And he was so persistent on always knowing what im doing

    Kitty July 16, 2026 11:41 pm
    Well we weren’t official, and he was immature in a sense because he would basically spam text me while i was working. He didnt have a job vus he was in college. But i repeatedly told him like dude, u cant do ... Kitty

    Also, i never sent him my address or brought him home, he basically stalked me and found it out on his own which was so ducking weird

    CuteCoffin July 17, 2026 1:30 am
    Thank you for your reply! I haven’t heard about it before but I‘ll try BOO out. Clubbing isn‘t really my thing though JJ2006

    To be honest, I'm not really familiar about the real life top or bottom dynamic in gay relationships, also, I thought in real life, a gay couple do the both sides but also makes sense If not everybody is into that. I’m more likely a fluid person, or bisexual If it's makes sense, I’m more likely straight but I do like girls and I had my way once with a girl and somehow I ended up as the “top” who leads the way even tho I didn’t had experience before with a girl. So, I can’t help with the difficulitys, I think, If you find someone who are capable with a normal communication, yall’ can talk about the “top” “bottom” part. I Wish you a good luck, and I'm also curious about the Boo app is helpful or not. (●'◡'●)ノ