Defining "fem" depends on what you mean. Fem/femme is a queer term mostly (i believe) used for lesbians and means when someone expresses their gender in a feminine way. Fem short for feminine is well anything that's feminine leaning. I'm assuming some are trying to say based on the context that these two male leads are fem presenting in their gender identity which is just false. The bottom doesn't gravitate in anyway to feminine things at all. Not from the clothes, the makeup, or even speech patterns tbh, not even his hobbies lean stereotypically feminine. He's pretty sure, but not every pretty guy leans feminine. The top I can get behind more since he is also very pretty and does his makeup but he doesn't express his gender in a feminine way. Makeup in Korea isn't as gendered as it is in the west but also even in the west it's pretty acceptable for men to wear makeup in the alt community! So to me he really isn't "fem" in either context.. However if you choose to interpretate either as feminine it's totally fine, however I would change the verbiage used when discussing their feminine traits from "fem/femme" since it doesn't really equate to these two. Also educating isn't "attacking" nor is disagreement! Chatting on a public forum is totally fine, as long as no insults are being thrown and everyone stays respectful. Femininity is ofc a spectrum and I believe we all have it in us, fem is when ur gender expression leans more feminine than not!
Defining "fem" depends on what you mean. Fem/femme is a queer term mostly (i believe) used for lesbians and means when someone expresses their gender in a feminine way. Fem short for feminine is well anything that's feminine leaning. I'm assuming some are trying to say based on the context that these two male leads are fem presenting in their gender identity which is just false. The bottom doesn't gravitate in anyway to feminine things at all. Not from the clothes, the makeup, or even speech patterns tbh, not even his hobbies lean stereotypically feminine. He's pretty sure, but not every pretty guy leans feminine. The top I can get behind more since he is also very pretty and does his makeup but he doesn't express his gender in a feminine way. Makeup in Korea isn't as gendered as it is in the west but also even in the west it's pretty acceptable for men to wear makeup in the alt community! So to me he really isn't "fem" in either context.. However if you choose to interpretate either as feminine it's totally fine, however I would change the verbiage used when discussing their feminine traits from "fem/femme" since it doesn't really equate to these two. Also educating isn't "attacking" nor is disagreement! Chatting on a public forum is totally fine, as long as no insults are being thrown and everyone stays respectful. Femininity is ofc a spectrum and I believe we all have it in us, fem is when ur gender expression leans more feminine than not!