Sihyun is afraid if he’s too demanding or too pushy he won’t stay as the bottom’s favorite or even of interest of the bottom. His fear comes from his childhood when his mother was cheated on by his father and she would demand more of her husband to give her and her son more attention and be in their lives more.
but that only brought her more misery and still led to her losing her husband and breakdown. In those chapters Sihyun says “if only she understood her situation and demanded less, she could’ve still had a place in her husband’s life/heart/time…it’s those who demand and show their attachment that get hurt” or something like that…
so now hes too afraid to act selfish in a relationship because that’s what he learned as a child. You just learn to accept it and try to maintain a footing in the life of the person you love by not being too jealous or “controlling” or demanding and you have to be careful not be an emotional baggage by being too pushy by wanting more of the relationship or they will abandon you and you will end up losing them forever.
So now every time he loses his composure, or openly express negative feelings about their situation…he gets super scared he will end up boring the other person out and pushing them away…. + Remember according to his way of thinking, he was only able to become the favorite by not putting too much pressure on the relationship so that proved his way of thinking even more.
Sihyun is afraid if he’s too demanding or too pushy he won’t stay as the bottom’s favorite or even of interest of the bottom. His fear comes from his childhood when his mother was cheated on by his father and she would demand more of her husband to give her and her son more attention and be in their lives more.
but that only brought her more misery and still led to her losing her husband and breakdown. In those chapters Sihyun says “if only she understood her situation and demanded less, she could’ve still had a place in her husband’s life/heart/time…it’s those who demand and show their attachment that get hurt” or something like that…
so now hes too afraid to act selfish in a relationship because that’s what he learned as a child. You just learn to accept it and try to maintain a footing in the life of the person you love by not being too jealous or “controlling” or demanding and you have to be careful not be an emotional baggage by being too pushy by wanting more of the relationship or they will abandon you and you will end up losing them forever.
So now every time he loses his composure, or openly express negative feelings about their situation…he gets super scared he will end up boring the other person out and pushing them away…. + Remember according to his way of thinking, he was only able to become the favorite by not putting too much pressure on the relationship so that proved his way of thinking even more.