It probably isn’t as common as it once was, and it was always the exception more than the rule, but there’s a reason why the term “Gentleman Farmer” became a thing, or “Mistress of the Household.” Did you know that the late Queen Elizabeth II of England worked as a mechanic in a motor pool during WWII?—And her commitment to the job was genuine with no irony, not like Marie Antoinette frolicking around as a pretend shepherdess.
Wow I didn't know that about the queen. But yeah its not ever noble or royal were like Marie Antoinette. Many had to learn skills such as sewing, tea lessons, politics, business, and even cooking and cleaning. Many book and movies romanticize the noble and royal life with parties but leave out the fact that if you didn't excel in learning said skills you would be seen unfit for the society. Many women would also had to learn finance to maintain their households.
And in other times and places by assisting their communities to tend to the poor, elderly, infirm and sick; preparing to safeguard families and livestock from severe weather, famine, pestilence, epidemics and conflict; providing assistance and education for childbearing and birth…. Leadership roles in the communities were achieved and sustained by actually being of value to those communities and helping them to survive and thrive.
Girl…I get that you have not been in society barely at all growing up but you think what you were doing was hiding your trauma?! What ladies clean or cook or do other chores? Lol lol oh my goodness