She's been abused for two decades and only now receives care and love. Character development doesn't happen overnight.
If she weren't as submissive as she is, she would have been beaten to death instead.
Everything you said is true. And the emphasis is on the PAST TENSE. In the story present time she should stand/speak up for herself, more and more. A husband like that standing at her side, she should not stop him to protect her even if just verbally because it reflects badly on him and her also. She has now a social standing and if she cannot grow up to be by/to take her husband's side then she should just keep quiet. She seemingly took her mother-in-law's side in the quarell and after (I hate these characters:"Iloveeverybodyand everybodywilllovemebackifitakeallthehitsandblame) she tells him she wants to be in good relation with the mother-in-law. BS! Speak up respectfully for yourself! If mother-in-law-dearest does not give you the basic respect and curtesy then f*ck it! She does not have to live with her. She lives with ML.
This is true in real life too.
I cannot bend and relate. My opinion stands and I respect yours because everyone has a right to voice theirs. No argument just sharing thoughts.
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I agree with you that personally I cannot understand / relate, but we live in very different times. It's easy to say if we were alive then and in her place we would stand up for purselves at this point in the story, but very likely we would end up like her. Also, I don't think much time has really passed since she was married off, but abuse like that and that goes on for so long takes equally as long to get over. She is slowly making progress if you compare her to the first chapter. But I understand that not everyone will like her personality. I'm also not a fan of the type of character that loves everyone and forgives everyone no matter what, but I guess we will see how her personality will show. Also, I don't remember exactly but isn't she like 19 or 20? Her brain isn't even fully developed yet...
I loved this story. A LOT. But these trials and her meek character does get on my nerves. By meek I mean literally a gentle BUT easily imposed on AND submissive character. If she will be like this with "mother-in-law-dearest" too I start flipping tables. It would be frustrating V-E-R-Y M-U-C-H.
The beginning of the story was hartwarming. Then it became annoying somehow. I mean the side character's behaviour and the effect on the FL.
I always knew if I would live in that era I would be burned at the stake because of my fiery character. Throwing fists and stabbing foes, cursing and being a total opposite of social expectations would make me a villainess but I would live freely even if for a short time.
This story is not about me anyway. The ML and FL are lovely, lovable, relatable. But their family on both sides should just suck on lemon all day and touch some grass.
Just let us have some loving time with main characters and see/read about their relationship development.
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