well, i experienced this once in a relationship; he was so sweet but ended up being controlling, as if he wanted every inch of my body firmly within his grasp like.. every time i wanted to do something, i'd find myself thinking, "what if he gets angry? what if i disappoint him? what should i do?" it took 2 years of struggle to finally break free from that ex :')
my current bf is angelllll, he always listens to my voice and respects my wishes sometimes my anxiety flares up as hell, making me feel like i couldn't live without him (just like i used to feel) but he always says, "no, no... you can live without me, i am the one who wants to be by your side, sorry i'm a selfish person."

ok, i understand why some say other stories are more extreme, but this one is terrifying bcz realistic... ngl reading it deeply triggered my own trauma, it feels like being underwater, unable to breathe, just suffocating