I actually personally know someone very similar to Mincheol (adult n young ver) and with similar circumstances.
When he was a teenager, he was a jolly, sunshine-type person who believed he could do anything for love. He met someone and chose her over his dreams. They were deeply in love but poor, and eventually had a child despite having little savings because they thought, “We love each other, so maybe it’ll work out.”
But things got difficult. After giving birth, his partner had a nervous breakdown and couldn’t walk, stand, or take care of their baby. He had to take care of both her and their baby while working from midnight until dawn. She couldn’t even stand to use the bathroom to pee or sht, so he would give her a basin to use and then clean it afterward. Then their child developed health problems, leading to even more debt.
When his partner recovered, he started working multiple jobs (3) while doing phone repairs as a side hustle, but it still wasn’t enough. He became exhausted, started drinking, and slowly changed from the cheerful person he used to be into someone constantly irritated and sometimes destructive.
They eventually had another child(unplanned) and accumulated even more debt. Despite everything, he remained a good provider—he paid for whatever his partner and children needed, including food, vitamins, checkups, and other expenses. But it felt like love had been replaced by responsibility. He even helped support his sister financially while carrying all those responsibilities.
Eventually, their relationship became toxic and they are on and off. She went abroad, and their relationship seemed completely over.
But things changed. His sister eventually went abroad too and helped him financially with his education, allowing him to go abroad as well. He and his partner reunited overseas, and somehow their relationship was reignited. They’re now genuinely happy together.
The biggest difference between him and Mincheol? He never cheated or physically abused his partner. Even when the love disappeared, there was still respect.
And now, he’s become that jolly, sunshine person again. It honestly feels like seeing his teenage self after so many years.
I think the lesson is: don’t start a family without being financially prepared. He wasn’t a bad person—he was overwhelmed because he felt like the entire world depended on him. Once they became financially stable, they could finally enjoy life and each other without constantly feeling guilty or burdened.
I actually personally know someone very similar to Mincheol (adult n young ver) and with similar circumstances.
When he was a teenager, he was a jolly, sunshine-type person who believed he could do anything for love. He met someone and chose her over his dreams. They were deeply in love but poor, and eventually had a child despite having little savings because they thought, “We love each other, so maybe it’ll work out.”
But things got difficult. After giving birth, his partner had a nervous breakdown and couldn’t walk, stand, or take care of their baby. He had to take care of both her and their baby while working from midnight until dawn. She couldn’t even stand to use the bathroom to pee or sht, so he would give her a basin to use and then clean it afterward. Then their child developed health problems, leading to even more debt.
When his partner recovered, he started working multiple jobs (3) while doing phone repairs as a side hustle, but it still wasn’t enough. He became exhausted, started drinking, and slowly changed from the cheerful person he used to be into someone constantly irritated and sometimes destructive.
They eventually had another child(unplanned) and accumulated even more debt. Despite everything, he remained a good provider—he paid for whatever his partner and children needed, including food, vitamins, checkups, and other expenses. But it felt like love had been replaced by responsibility. He even helped support his sister financially while carrying all those responsibilities.
Eventually, their relationship became toxic and they are on and off. She went abroad, and their relationship seemed completely over.
But things changed. His sister eventually went abroad too and helped him financially with his education, allowing him to go abroad as well. He and his partner reunited overseas, and somehow their relationship was reignited. They’re now genuinely happy together.
The biggest difference between him and Mincheol? He never cheated or physically abused his partner. Even when the love disappeared, there was still respect.
And now, he’s become that jolly, sunshine person again. It honestly feels like seeing his teenage self after so many years.
I think the lesson is: don’t start a family without being financially prepared. He wasn’t a bad person—he was overwhelmed because he felt like the entire world depended on him. Once they became financially stable, they could finally enjoy life and each other without constantly feeling guilty or burdened.
That man is my brother btw!