I do feel like you might be reading ones that are toxic from the get go lmao also, from what I’ve read online, dub con tends to be popular in Asia bc there tends to be a stigma around sex for women especially, so it’s easier to read sth where the character “is forced” bc it takes away the agency of having to decide. It’s … not great, but would explain a lot
I asked myself the same question, and then I met some Koreans in South Korea. After talking with them over time, I realized that they have a patriarchal sex education. Even BL works are very hypocritical : they have zero tolerance for LGBT people in South Korea. They are completely marginalized, rejected, and can even lose their jobs, etc. … It’s a business for Korean authors...

woah what's in the air in korea ? every bl manhwa I'm reading there is hardcore banging that is toxic (flashlight , passion , swallow me whole , kill my love ) why is everyone desperate to 'mark' them like this isn't omegaverse GET OUT