I totally understand .
Tbh though . No shade I swear , everyone is different.
I first tried it with my husband and it was painful af and just felt like pooping in reverse with pain . It wasn’t until I realized there’s steps to it and it can be super worth it.
But fuuuuuuuckkkkkk did it hurt so bad when I first tried even though I thought we went slow and added enough lube to fill a cup.
So if you ever wanna open that door again : only if you want to queen !
Steps :
Step 1: it’s mental work - warm up the idea that woman can have like up to 6 uniques types of orgasms (some people say it’s higher - up to 12-16) but for now science has only proved 6.
Step 2 : mentally just know that you CAN and SHOULD be allowed to enjoy this process not just men can start you in a good mental space .
Step 3 : hygiene- clean yourself out with a bidet and use a condom when doing backdoor (scented lube is your friend) for back door only .
Step 4: your partner and you must feel trust and love . He must love you enough to that the idea of growing old and from your morning breath to your farts and shit do not put them off . This is natural and human and accidents can happen.
Step 5: anal train beforehand. It took me anal training for 3 months in order to adjust to it . Start SUPER SMALL ! Use Amazon to deliver an anal trainer - they are these little butt plugs that start from very small like pinky size to a much bigger size .
Step 5: put it all together . Mental - more mental - hygiene- love and support- size and realistic goals.
Step 6: have one of the most intense orgasms of your life !
Honestly is was crazy . I thought it would just be pain and poop . Grossness and dissatisfaction that once again men got all the fun . I was SOOO happy I was wrong !!!
Anyway it’s not my business what you try . I just feel an obligation to make sure us ladies have the chance to feel more happiness and pleasure .
Anal may really never be your thing but I gave it a shot because my friend told me her mom went through such a severe menopause that vaginal insertion because impossible , some type extreme dryness mixed with thinning skin IN THERE and basically her lady parts was out for the count . Her marriage was basically half dead , but her husband loved her and was willing to take medication to lower his libido all types of stuff so there live could be emotional
Totally understandable.
Anyway in the end anal was the solution because it helped !
Ngl, I’m actually very glad there aren’t any anal play. I’m not a big fan of it… at all. It just be looking like it hurts, and yes I’ve sort of tried it. It did hurt and there’s sh** in there. I just can’t wrap my head around it. So yeah, im okay with no anal in here lol