Looking for a specific type of BL?

So I am asking for help finding stuff to read, because I feel like I read everything that's more or less popular and I am getting bored :,(

I am looking for reccomendations for something new to read!

I really want to find stories that have
1. No power imbalances (so both characters are strong and capable and no one stays with the other for money/protection/threats etc).
2. No tragedy, angst and dark themes are fine but the end should be happy/hopeful
3. Character development/relationship development. I read a manhwa recently where one character went from "stay away from me" to "let's get married" in the span of a chapter which like... huh?
4. The characters look their age, so no uke who looks like a child or teen... ┗( T﹏T )┛


Bonus for things I love:
Supernatural/fantasy elements, game/gamers, secret identities, superheroes/villains, plot twists/drama, fluff, recovering from hardships, animal characteristics, monsters, misunderstood characters, beautiful art, enemies to lovers, guideverse, horror, green flags

Things I am less fond of but will still try if reccomended as there are some great ones out there, I just read a lot of them and they feel repetative:
Office/businessmen setting, mafia/gang, high school, childhood friends, historical, yellow flags, reincarnation

Dislike:
The entire conflict can be solved with the characters communicating like adults, yandere, red flags, noncon, toxic stuff that doesn't get better/characters don't improve their behavior

Also it doesn't have to necessarily be BL, but I really dislike helpless heroines and harems which seem popular. Also feel free to reccomend novels too!

I know it's a lot but I would appreciate the help, I honestly read a lot, most of the 9+ rated manga/manhwa out there so if there are stories that are rated below 9 and you believe deserve a chance please do suggest them I am just wary of starting stories and them ending up being bad (￣∇￣")