Likee I don’t think you’re a narc they’re different but I can see how she might think you’re being manipulating. Words like asking for proof can make people put up defensive wall because their thought process is like,”you’re my friend, you should believe me regardless” also just going like,”uhh okay okayyy” can come off as questioning. That being said, just communicate that to your friend that’s just how you are as a person and you don’t mean it like that and if she’s like,”well uh change yourself” then she’s in the wrong because your close friends should just accept you as you are. I would say start gate keeping your friends, I know you love your friends making friends (I do too) but I realized I do NOT want all my friends to start hanging out without me. That’s how I am I can’t help it but I do communicate that with all my friends. You should also communicate that you feel left out sometimes if that just dgaf, dropthem don’t let people make you feel like you’re not wanted. The dude friend, just ask him he seems nice just COMMUNICATE.
(That being said I’m just giving evb the benefit of the doubt if you asked for my opinion on the friend who called you this is call her a bum because who says that to their friend, a good friend doesn’t call their friends,”Narc”)
Thank you so much!! ಥ_ಥ I really need this to confirm.. and I have been watching a lot of videos about manipulators and narcissistist people and comparing myself... I want to ask someone but I'm scared if the truth.. and it's been like 4 years... And I finally got a courage of this(´；ω；｀) and yep he is. He's a good friend a green I should say. That's why I keep telling him "whoever man you'll get with will be lucky" and he'll just laugh and say "Bro. How can you say that? Can you read futures?" And I'll try talking to them by private Messaging them.. (*´ω｀*) thx
Alright this ain't about any stories or manga/hwa/Hua..
I just need this to confirm this.. is this some kind of manipulation or Narcissists thing of what I did to my best friend back then? Because this has been stuck to me for a long time when she said to my other friends that I was a manipulator and narcissistist.. and I'm really confused because I thought it was just a game because we did this to each other.. I tried saying and explaining to them that I thought it was a game.. and I thought she knows.. and I didn't know I was manipulating her.. I don't even know how to manipulate or have any Idea back then what was manipulation or being a Narcissists...
Okay here is it
Whenever we talk about something or tried to remember something we always do this to each other... Like
When we're talking about a scene that happened or I did or she did I'll ask her
"Really? Do you have proof? When? Where? I don't see any" and I got a smirking face with that!! Like smiling. And what'll do or she'll do she or I will say a random time or no and continue and just say me or her will say "mmmhh!! Okay~ okay~" like that..
We'll just ask "are you sure?" When? Where? Proof?" I thought it was a game... Like you can just say any random place or time.. cause that's what she do and I also.. I even say at the Amazon River and the time was 100oclockthat it happened. And yada² but the story/tea is real...
So.. is it really manipulating?.. this is from the past but she still keeps bringing it up and a lot of my friends that I make will no longer talk to me or trust me... Well it's kinda frustrating.. they're my friends first and I introduced them to each other while thinking I'll have a big cof.. I always introduce my friends to each other and to her.. and whenever I introduced someone to her and later on she'll say that I was like this and that.. they'll become close.. and I'm always left out.. and the reason why I introduced her to everyone is because I don't want anyone to be left out and she doesn't like taking the first step on talking to someone.. so even if don't like it and I see her wanting to befriend someone I'll do it.. and whenever I want to eat something I'll always buy her.. or she wants to eat something I'll buy anything because ik her background.. and idk.. ok this is too much.. I just felt bad.. and I'm lucky that I got this.. that's why whenever we'll hang out I feel like they're just using be because of my money.. but I still do make some close friends though who checks on me or whenever I get left behind while walking he always pulls me and tries to include me! He even tries to ask if I'm okay paying for them or if I'm really sure . Sometimes he'll pay half of everything.. I really want to ask him or ask anyone if I'm being too much of manipulating my friends of making them stick to me by using my money... I want to ask them but they're close to her.. and she's my best friend.. and I just felt like she's right that I'm using money,and the way I speak and how I play around to manipulate them.. I did try asking my friend if I was but he said no and said will a blunt and an angry face? that I was just a people pleaser and he did agree that I have a weird kink for liking BL ༎‿༎ and shipping him with almost everyone.. well.. can't help it yk?? ( ；∀；) it's just that's.. he's giving seme and uke vibe..