I also saw some people think Chase is better than Grayson. And Grayson in Chase's point of view justify their hate towards Grayson in Grayson's story
Grayson is trying to understand everyone. Surely he annoys us in the process, but he wants to understand people better. He's so bad in reading the room, reading people and communicating, he needs help
Without undermining Chase's trauma, I want to point out Chase is rude equally to everyone, even to people who doesn't cause his trauma. His only exception at first is Josh, then Pete, only his own family

Dane is right for talking about his body is his own right. Altough I wish it's written more clear when Grayson said he has his own right, he wasn't talking about Dane should have a baby
Dane raped Grayson. Then Grayson is considering the possibility of a child out of that situation. He actually thought about how to approach that relationship with Dane. He never thought of forcing Dane to have a baby, he also doesn't plan to babytrap Dane (I saw someone said this bruh)