I think you're really amazing for what you did, and also don't you feel a little lighter now that YOU HAVE TOLD her your feelings and that she properly gave you a reply. I had a crush on a guy too (am a girl though) but was never able to tell him because we weren't that close at all, and that was like 7yr ago. Now I've had a couple crushes since then, but I don't feel the same with them because I feel different them, I don't think you're supposed to feel exactly the same with your next one. I mean, some people make you feel happy others safe, others beautiful and so on and on.
With me, because I never told that guy that I liked him, I couldn't get him out of my head. But well it's been 7yr since then, sooo I moved on a long time ago, although I can still recall those feelings it's just memories of my first crush.
Well, I'm horrible at giving advices so all I can say is cheer up! I'm sure you'll find someone one day, or maybe you'll even get her. Being asexual doesn't mean she can't fall in love, it means having no sexual attraction to others.
And I'm proud of you even if I don't know you. I find people who confess very brave. I had a crush on a girl too and I think I still do but there's no way I can tell her my feelings.
So yeah, you did great, even if you got rejected. And people's feelings can change, she can still fall in love with you.
I've never truly fell in love or dated anyone but I can feel your sincere feelings through this one post... and i can't help but want to support you! First here is a hug!!! You must have loved her so much... i wish i could tell you that it won't hurt anymore but truth is I think the emotions stay but will blend do blend out with time ;) all I can say is you are growing and moving forwards the fact that u confessed and got rejected is a prove ! Be positive somewhere out there there will be the person! Thx for sharing I hope u all the best in the future !!
Thanks for your reply. That's truly a pity. Years before when I had my first crush (on a guy) I couldn't muster enough courage to confess, and then graduation came and I never saw him again. I think that sorta made me feel regretful, and I thought this time I should be different. Of course it wasn't easy at all (so I had to be a chicken and hide behind letters at first, while constantly gauging her reactions). I think there's always a lesson to be learned.
For now I guess I should just let things go their way. I'll be seeing her again next August. Honestly Idk how to face her now that the cat's out of the bag, but I'll manage.
This would be ideal. Personally I'm not sure how much effort I should put into making this possible, but I'll give it some thought. I did think of this after the rejection, but it's difficult because we're not in the same country and we don't see each other often. But i think I'll still care about her the way i've always done so far :) Thank you.
*hugs back* Thanks so much, this cheered me up a lot. I think it'll take some time for me to get over this since it happened just a few days ago. I really appreciate all the support here :) Again thank you!
It might be weird to post this here, but I think many of you can relate (or understand). I'm a girl and I started having a crush on a friend of mine (also a girl) almost 3 years ago. It's been so long, and it's become something more than just a crush. Also, Ever since then, we've become much closer (mainly because I basically spams her every day). I kinda did confess to her several times (through letters, because we're not living in the same country anymore and it's super nerve-wrecking for me to text/say it directly). She didn't really comment on those letters and we carried on as normal. I think the first time I confessed like this was in March 2016, around that time. I thought that I'd properly let her know my feelings in person someday when I can go visit her again.
But then, circumstances came, and just a few days ago she started talking about asexuality (she said she's asexual), at which point I decided to confess and ask how she felt about me having romantic feelings for her. Yes, guys, I got rejected. She said it's impossible for her to have such things as romantic feelings, but she still reassured me that I don't have to change how I act around her and that I don't have to apologize for anything, because she's been aware of my feelings for so long and she still treats me normally.
I was certainly relieved because I could finally say it properly to her. But guys, it still hurts a lot :( Real life is so much different from manga. I read Tamen De Gushi and I just wish that my love life could turn out so well. The conversation keeps replaying over and over in my head, and I find it so hard to move on. I'm the type of person who, once I have feelings for someone, cannot have the same kind of feelings for someone else (I'm guessing I'm demisexual, but that's not the main point now). Considering how she and I still keep in touch a lot now (mostly through texting), I think it'll be so hard to move on. Also, I've been exhausted devoting the past 3 years to her and I don't think I can start anew with someone else, at least for now.
If anyone of you has some advice for me or stories to share, that'd be great. Sorry for the long post, and thanks for reading.