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how to talk with someone you want to befriend?

blueberok July 28, 2018 3:27 am

Met this guy irl (he's actually working for an NPO) he knows anime and we had some commons interests but I have no friends and no social life so I don't know how to interact. He texted me this morning and I have no idea how to answer, how to befriend, and if I'm just being scammed (are dudes working for non-profit organisation really going far enough to meet people in cafés and stuff?)

I would really like a friend and the guy just seemed real nice. For someone afraid to talk to strangers we had quite a long conversation and I never felt anxious talking. I'm just anxious about the next steps to knowing someone.

Responses
    Night July 28, 2018 3:33 am

    ff

    okayreiji July 28, 2018 3:34 am

    Cliché, but when talking, just be yourself. When you see him next, do a friendly greeting and maybe bring up your common interests? I get very anxious about these things as well (if you do too, the “as well” part makes sense right). Light conversation works well first off. Just make sure to smile when talking, if you do he’ll feel more welcomed and less intimidated, and look him in the eyes, but not too much. Good luck.

    Lord Bread July 28, 2018 3:40 am

    I normally do weird stuff; I once twerked a light post.
    So good luck.

    Wayfinder July 28, 2018 3:42 am

    Hey there! I also have no social life and trouble with this stuff too lol I’m not sure what he texted you this morning, but usually I find that asking the person questions about his/herself really helps. It can keep the conversation going and it can give you the opportunity not to worry over what to say next. Then of course, the other person can ask you questions about yourself. So you said he knows some anime/has common interests, so maybe ask some more questions relating to that. Personally, I don’t think it sounds like he’s scamming you. If you meet him out at a cafe or something like that, you can make small talk at the start and then gear the conversation towards common interests or maybe even something new you would like to learn about him. Getting to know someone is really all about connecting with a person in different aspects or areas and learning about them in whatever way works :) Sorry if this doesn’t help at all xD just the ideas that came to mind. I hope it all works out for you!

    blueberok July 28, 2018 3:49 am

    You're right I usually get anxious. And yea Lord Bread I do weird stuff as well (too used to the weird part of the internet) so I guess it adds up to the anxiousness. Also he just texted : Hello this is Patrick (no pun it's his name) with Lil smiley. So it's weird to just answer hello?

    Zeffyra July 28, 2018 3:51 am

    guy: hi...
    you: happy birthday?

    Wayfinder July 28, 2018 3:52 am
    You're right I usually get anxious. And yea Lord Bread I do weird stuff as well (too used to the weird part of the internet) so I guess it adds up to the anxiousness. Also he just texted : Hello this is Patrick... blueberok

    Well if he said hi, you can say “hey” and ask what’s up or ask how he is :)

    Little July 28, 2018 3:56 am
    guy: hi...you: happy birthday? Zeffyra

    Waiter/waitress: Enjoy your food!
    Me: you too!
    Waiter/ waitress: ....
    Me: ....

    blueberok July 28, 2018 3:58 am

    Zeffyra you totally summed up what I do under anxiety (≧∀≦) I'm the kind to answer to "paper bag or plastic bag?" with "yes"... Online I write a bit better just cause it's not as weird as lot of other stuff online...

    okayreiji July 28, 2018 4:01 am
    You're right I usually get anxious. And yea Lord Bread I do weird stuff as well (too used to the weird part of the internet) so I guess it adds up to the anxiousness. Also he just texted : Hello this is Patrick... blueberok

    I say reply with hello/hi, but with a little something extra. So if he wants to talk, he can make a branch topic.

    Little July 28, 2018 4:41 am

    Just answer back like>> Hello! How was your day??/how r u?
    And then maybe try and start a conversation about anime/manga or just about life.. im not very social.. so i cant help that much... but i do talk alot on the internet.. so whenever someone says hi to me i will say " Hey! How r u? "
    ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭

    Night July 28, 2018 5:02 am
    Waiter/waitress: Enjoy your food!Me: you too! Waiter/ waitress: ....Me: .... Little

    Me: *Opens door for people*
    - after 2+ minutes of holding the door for a wave of people -
    Stranger: I can get that *grabs door*
    Me: *looks at their arm which is blatantly blocking my path*
    Me: Thanks *Limbos under arm and doesn't look back*

    Little July 28, 2018 5:38 am
    Me: *Opens door for people*- after 2+ minutes of holding the door for a wave of people -Stranger: I can get that *grabs door*Me: *looks at their arm which is blatantly blocking my path*Me: Thanks *Limbos under ... Night

    Me: *Finishes coke*
    Waiter/waitress: Would you like another look??
    Me: *doesnt hear them and looks down* oh.. uhhhh...
    Waiter/waitress: ....
    Sister: Do you want another coke? yes or no?
    Me: OH! UH YES! PLEASE.
    Me: *feels dumb and embarrassed*

    Little July 28, 2018 5:38 am
    Me: *Finishes coke*Waiter/waitress: Would you like another look??Me: *doesnt hear them and looks down* oh.. uhhhh...Waiter/waitress: ....Sister: Do you want another coke? yes or no? Me: OH! UH YES! PLEASE. Me: ... Little

    would you like another coke?))

    Zeffyra July 28, 2018 5:46 am
    Zeffyra you totally summed up what I do under anxiety (≧∀≦) I'm the kind to answer to "paper bag or plastic bag?" with "yes"... Online I write a bit better just cause it's not as weird as lot of other stu... blueberok

    been there... hahahah...
    guy: hi...
    you: happy birthday?
    ...if the guy catches that awkwardness and adds humor to it... wrap and tie that guy up... he's the one for u....

    Night July 28, 2018 7:27 pm
    would you like another coke?)) Little

    Waiter/Waitress: How would you like your eggs - sunny side up or over easy?
    Me: Uh... whichever one means that it's cooked.
    Waiter/Waitress: They both are.
    Me: Oh.

    Little July 28, 2018 7:37 pm
    Waiter/Waitress: How would you like your eggs - sunny side up or over easy?Me: Uh... whichever one means that it's cooked.Waiter/Waitress: They both are.Me: Oh. Night

    Waiter/waitress: What can i get you to eat?? *looks at me*
    Me: *stares at waiter/waitress while in just being in space*
    Waiter/waitress: .........
    Me: OH! UMM....... *orders something*

    Little July 28, 2018 9:36 pm
    Waiter/waitress: What can i get you to eat?? *looks at me*Me: *stares at waiter/waitress while in just being in space*Waiter/waitress: ......... Me: OH! UMM....... *orders something* Little

    while im))