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Rin Askashi December 2, 2018 7:46 am

My parents and foster parents are Christians and my mom is a pastor. All of my family are homophobic and I’m bisexual. My family talks about a lot of stuff like liking the opposite sex and how disgusting it is and I have to play along with it even tho I’m hurt. I’m afraid to come out and I dont think I ever will. They already verbally abuse me what are gonna do next? Kill me? There are reasons that I wouldn’t like to say about why I’m bisexual but I feel like I don’t fit in anywhere anymore. A lot of anxiety from past memories and verbally abused at home and with my friends at school too? It’s really hard to put off thoughts of suicide these past days..

Responses
    Itadakimasu December 2, 2018 8:34 am

    Don't give up, things will eventually get better

    Shiki December 2, 2018 9:12 am

    If the environment that you are in hurts you, it would be best to change that. Why do you need to live in pain for people that do you no good. Family is something that you can find everywhere, your blood relations shouldn't keep you chained to a situation that lets you thing about ending everthing.
    At first you should keep a distance from these people, secondly you need to find a place where you can relax and have fun and lastly when you have thought deeply about what you want to do with yourself, then it's time to face them because even if you like the present, you also need to come to terms with your past and not run away from it.

    tori December 2, 2018 9:54 am

    Mija, the minute you can, leave.

    I wish I could tell you it gets easier, unfortunately, we bisexuals aren't very welcome in the community, don't give up tho! There are plenty of people who will support you unconditionally, if you ever need a shoulder, please PM me.

    I'm always here(▰˘◡˘▰)

    fujoshiiii-chan December 2, 2018 12:04 pm

    Its hard, but your saftey comes first. Come out when you know you will have a place to go if they do try to harm you. Good luck for the future! It will get better dont worry

    Roha1 December 2, 2018 1:14 pm

    You really should leave. The best way to make them understand is to prove them wrong. Find another family. Close friends could help you or you could go to local organizations or meeting points for people with similar problems. Wait until you have a place to stay, even if you have to wait to move out on your own. Explain the distance between you and your family when you got the life you want. Or maybe just don't talk to them at all. Whatever feels better. You will be happy someday. I promise.

    Evii December 2, 2018 2:32 pm

    I know someday you’ll receive the acceptance and respect that you deserve. No one is perfect and being you is hard in this world full of judgement, but i wanna tell you that sooner or later what matters in the end is how you vesion yourself as long as you’re not doing any harm to people I guess you are perfectly fine just the way you are. If they don’t accept you pls believe that they will if not now maybe in the future, don’t lose hope my friend you’re not alone remember that.

    MidoriMafu December 2, 2018 6:47 pm

    Hey I'm in the same place, I also had the same thoughts as you when I was emotional. Trust me, when it comes to cases like this, you wouldn't want to use your emotions to make the decisions. Your safety should be top priority. Just play along, keep it in. I know it's hard, I'm doing the same. But one day, you and me will be out of their roof and you'll have the freedom we wish to have. Until then, we just gotta hold on and find other bits of happiness until the time we get that big fish. :D

    MoonFallx December 2, 2018 7:59 pm

    I'm a Christian and ik for a fact real Christians love everyone no matter what just like the way God loves us ur parents need to learn a thing or two and I will pray u get better soon ლ(´ڡ`ლ)

    MilkWise December 2, 2018 8:26 pm

    That's weird, if u are bi then you can just stick with the opposite sex to make your family happy, the end.

    Hani-Sama December 2, 2018 10:47 pm

    My family is like that too but I'm just going to do my thing and be me over the years I've learned to ignore them when I'm older and have a proper job I'm gonna move far away from them maybe not cut of ties with them completely because they are still my family I will contact them from to time to let know I'm ok that's what I plan to do

    InvalidLifesource December 2, 2018 11:00 pm

    Alot of people close to me have these same issues, and the only way to really make through it is to just hang in there until you can go off on your own. Its alot easier if you have someone close to you that you can complain to and ate ahve someone just be there for you, on your side, but, I know some people just simply dont have people like that close to them. Its saddening, and very hard to deal with, but just know that it WILL get better, sooner or later. Luckily ththe world is becoming much more open minded these days in compared to other times, so there are more and more people out there who are understanding and supportive of people like yourself. Just be strong. That's the best advice I can give, I wish i was more help

    jack December 3, 2018 12:55 am

    truth be told, your parents may not accept you, but if its their opinion that determines your future, you wont have a happy one. your parents and friends are just few people, there are several others who will welcome you with open arms, like me. I'm here if you wanna rant but hold the faith(๑•ㅂ•)و✧ Ganbare!(づ ̄ ³ ̄)づ

    Nara Rim December 3, 2018 1:38 am

    Hi there! My name is...well, it's the internet so I guess you gotta be careful, so let's go with Rim. I'm actually a pastor's kid too, and I can't help but empathize with your situation more than a little: I've grown up hearing how bad it's supposed to be to be LGBT, but when I saw stuff like that in real life...I couldn't get past how NORMAL it looked, despite everything my dad had ever told me. Sorry, that probably doesn't help much, I do know this though: usually, your parents just love you. You may be different from them, you may be frightened of what they'll think, but ALMOST, almost always; they just love you.
    Maybe that won't be the case here, how can I know? But keeping it all inside yourself until the dark thoughts eat you up from the inside out? It's just not an option. It'll kill you.
    Your parents may not ever be able to agree with you, but I'd be willing to bet that, like most parents, they'll love you no matter what.
    Give it a shot?

    Nara Rim December 3, 2018 1:42 am

    If you wanna talk, message me!...or something, I don't really know how this stuff works...

    Rin Askashi December 3, 2018 1:50 am

    Thank you guys so much for your encouragement but I’m not old enough yet to move out and they aren’t my real parents they are my foster parents and they don’t have to love me they only use me to get money every month.

    Nara Rim December 3, 2018 1:55 am

    You know...I meant what I said about messaging me. If there's anything I can do to help -even just by being someone you can talk to- I want to try.

    Rin Askashi December 3, 2018 2:25 am
    You know...I meant what I said about messaging me. If there's anything I can do to help -even just by being someone you can talk to- I want to try. Nara Rim

    Thank you

    Nara Rim December 3, 2018 2:39 am
    Thank you Rin Askashi

    Sooo...can I take that as confirmation that you could tolerate keeping me as a confidante?

    Clear December 3, 2018 3:10 am

    You're not alone I have friends in the same situation. I recommend to tell them they can't kill you cuz that's against the rules and their Christian 2nd we're all equal in God's eyes were all his children no matter how much we mess up. And 3rd if they can't accept you for who you are and they're not real parents this is your life remember that your parents already had theirs you only get one life make the most of it. Just shoutout speak up suck his don't give a damn what other people think so why is that different with your parents

    Clear December 3, 2018 3:14 am

    And don't worry just people that are supporting you and if they physically hurt you that just called the cops on them