I have a feeling that i'll get shi* for typing this but here goes:
I was thinking of what I would do if i was in Don's situation, and i have come to the conclusion that I would probably let Haero back into my life, granted I didn't trap myself in a one-sided love relationship like Don with Nami. However, if I was truly in Don's situation (point of no return, effing with Nami by staying with her and having sex with her instead of confronting her with the reality of the situation that it's unlikely for me to love her back from the start), I would stay with Nami like the true doormat that I am. I can predict where the plot is going and could only feel sad for Nami if she gets left to bite the dust
On another note, I was also thinking of why I have come to this conclusion. Initially, i thought it might be because I was too young and oblivious and have never been in an intimate relationship to be able to recognise Haero's extent of toxicity (i trust everybody in saying he is toxic, hence it confounds me why I would allow a toxic relationship propagate). However, on further inspection, it might be because I empathise more with Haero rather than sympathise. Their situation doesn't only apply with love, but all kinds of relationships including friendships. I was able to realise that I was probably toxic to a dearly missed person back in highschool, who i just started avoiding. We were besties, and I still don't understand why I did what I did, but I regret it.
What can be taken from this? I'm actually quite thankful of the author (and wish I could support them if only I wasn't a broke uni student that skipped a couple of lectures and should insteadbe catching up on 5 lectures's worth of content rather than read bl and type this horrendously long comment), as I now have more resolve about what I should do and how i should act. I don't want to mirror Haero and continue pushing away people due to my own personal complications. I'm glad to know that it's human to be like me, to know that I'm not alone, what with us humans being prone to mistakes, to loneliness and fear. It doesn't change my wrongs to rights, but I'm still working on it - on my cowardice, my doubts and fears.
(i had to retype everything as im using my phone and my phone cleared what i was typing smh)
I have a feeling that i'll get shi* for typing this but here goes:
I was thinking of what I would do if i was in Don's situation, and i have come to the conclusion that I would probably let Haero back into my life, granted I didn't trap myself in a one-sided love relationship like Don with Nami. However, if I was truly in Don's situation (point of no return, effing with Nami by staying with her and having sex with her instead of confronting her with the reality of the situation that it's unlikely for me to love her back from the start), I would stay with Nami like the true doormat that I am. I can predict where the plot is going and could only feel sad for Nami if she gets left to bite the dust
On another note, I was also thinking of why I have come to this conclusion. Initially, i thought it might be because I was too young and oblivious and have never been in an intimate relationship to be able to recognise Haero's extent of toxicity (i trust everybody in saying he is toxic, hence it confounds me why I would allow a toxic relationship propagate). However, on further inspection, it might be because I empathise more with Haero rather than sympathise. Their situation doesn't only apply with love, but all kinds of relationships including friendships. I was able to realise that I was probably toxic to a dearly missed person back in highschool, who i just started avoiding. We were besties, and I still don't understand why I did what I did, but I regret it.
What can be taken from this?
I'm actually quite thankful of the author (and wish I could support them if only I wasn't a broke uni student that skipped a couple of lectures and should insteadbe catching up on 5 lectures's worth of content rather than read bl and type this horrendously long comment), as I now have more resolve about what I should do and how i should act. I don't want to mirror Haero and continue pushing away people due to my own personal complications. I'm glad to know that it's human to be like me, to know that I'm not alone, what with us humans being prone to mistakes, to loneliness and fear. It doesn't change my wrongs to rights, but I'm still working on it - on my cowardice, my doubts and fears.
(i had to retype everything as im using my phone and my phone cleared what i was typing smh)