Well, is not like there is "one right way of love", I don't feel like anyone is in the position to tell other people "how to be in a relationship" since everyone has their own way. If those two end up happy like that, then ok then, I personally wouldn't date her but I'd try to help her as a friend at least because I did "love her" (puting myself in his shoes) But that is just me :^V
There are different versions of love yes, but is It really love if you can’t generate It for yourself and your own wellbeing? Doh literally hates her life lol. So in making someone else happy she’s convinced she too is happy? No. That’s running away from your own issues and your own negative debt. And eventually, even being in a relationship is going to prove hallow because you never fixed the issues you had by yourself. That’s just reality. Eventually you’re going to have to face the music of what’s going on with you and having a lover won’t make that go away
Having a lover won't make that go away, but it can help. Sometimes you just need to meet the right people, they can help you change, see things differently. It doesn't matter what kind of intention she originally had if it ends up well for both, I just prefer to believe that anyone can change.
Like it happened to her, somethings don't go the way you wanted them to go, but maybe that is a good thing, because the way she wanted was bad, but maybe it'll become something better.
I guess I'm just optimistic. I'm not denying that the kind of relationship she was looking for was toxic, but I still think is a good thing she gets to understand the toxicity at least just a little and hopefully learn to change.
Is it so wrong to fix someone? Is it bad to rely on others? Why does she have to "learn by herself"? Like of course it sucks for joonhyuk, but is it bad that he's trying to help her knowing she's broken? Is his choice
Sorry for the long comment, I won't reply again since it's just my opinion
Some people just don’t need to be in a relationship! Dating is about two happy, healthy, individuals who come together in unity. It is NOT about fixing your partner or completing your partner. If you come into a relationship expecting me to solve all of your issues (money, emotional, familial, etc) THATS TOXIC. I know a lot of people feel like they can love someone into happiness and it’s a part of love to do so, but it’s not. Doh does not know how to be happy alone and she is not good as a individual. And until she learns (i.e. becomes a better and healthier person for herself), she doesn’t need a man! “What’s love got to do with It if you don’t love yourself?” - Kendrick Lamar, the goat)