Hey, I’m with you. Not all loves are perfect. I’m a coward, too, so I totally understand feeling scared to be hurt someday. When I love I do it passionately, so I used to wonder how the girls (and boys) around me can easily get into a relationship with anyone who likes them, and I used to think that their feelings are kinda shallow. YuYang came from a family that doesn’t accept him as he is, so it must destroy him (multiple times even) that the person he believed to accept him simply changed and turned away. Yeah he’s a coward, yeah he’s hurt LiHuan and that’s something I hope he will apologise for some day; but I hate to see his feeling and his choice being made invalid by the readers just because it’s not going the way they want.
You literally just spoke my mind lmao I was about to say everything you just said about Yuyang.
This is hurting me so much, I hate seeing how he's not only hurting Lihuan, but himself too. The thing is Yuyang believes this pain is more bearable than getting rejected by Lihuan in the future would be. He doesn't want to go through that with Lihuan, he knows it'd destroy him to hear something like "I don't like you anymore. I prefer girls" coming out of Lihuan's mouth. Because Yuyang doesn't just like him, he /has feelings/ for Lihuan. In my opinion, it's pretty logical for him to be scared. This whole behaviour is a defense mechanism he probably developed after all his previous heartbreaks and that's something we can't really control. I wish more people understood this.
Of course it's frustrating, I don't deny that, especially when we all know they should just try to properly COMMUNICATE ashjdhd but please understand that Yuyang has his own valid reasons to act like this. It's not right and he should apologize later on, but just like no one wants him to invalidate Lihuan's feelings, don't do the same with his own.
I completely agree with everything you said! And this isn’t like it’s a surprise that came outnumber of nowhere, Yuyang’s apprehension, as frustrating as it is, has been foreshadowed and explored for MULTIPLE chapters already. This isn’t a surprise to me that this is happening bc of his past and his hesitation towards being hurt.
I know many people are frustrated at the author, but let me tell you guys something (and feel free to comment back, I would love to see all views on this matter).
This might get a little long ╮(￣▽￣)╭
First of all, please stop the hate, yes the author is dragging the plot and it gets frustrating having to wait WEEKS/MONTHS, but no need to swear or hate on the author. Constructive criticism or simply pointing out your frustration is fine, but please do it nicely :)))
Second, I understand your frustration, I personally haven't been following the manhwa that long, so for those of you who have stuck with since the beginning, I applaud you for your patience (even if it's starting to run thin) (also, please don't hate on each other, if someone is expressing their frustration, let them, this is why comment sections are here for, but once again, please talk nicely, no need to swear or hate on each other)
Now, for the real explanation...(/TДT)/ Most people are starting to dislike Yuyang because they think he's being too 'childish' and 'failing to understand Lihuan's feelings". So let me clarify: Yuyang knows that Lihuan likes him, he's not blind. Yuyang isn't doubitng the fact that Lihuan likes him,hence why Yuyang started to develop feelings as well. HOWEVER, Yuyang is scared. Why? Because he loves Lihuan too much. Yuyang has had multiple partners in the past, but they have all resulted in heartbreak on his side. Why? Because the people who had said they 'loved' him, eventually 'realized' or 'came to the conclusion' that they didn't like Yuyang anymore...simply because he was a man. Now, in comes Lihuan, who falls deeply in love with Yuyang, yet has been considered straight all his life. (Lihuan, as far as we know, has never been in a relationship before, so we can't determine his sexuality, maybe he is gay, bi, or straight...and that's the problem: Lihuan doesn't know his sexuality, he simply knows he loves Yuyang). In Yuyangs eyes, Lihuan is another lover who can suddenly decide he is unable to love a man and simply turn away. Yuyang is unable to bear with that heartbreak, especially since his feelings for Lihuan have grown so much. Yuyang is afraid that if Lihuan were to tell him "I don't love you anymore", that, that would ruin Yuyang (emotionally). Yuyang is simply afraid of being hurt, and we can't blame him for that, he is human, he wants to be loved too.
If it's confusing feel free to ask for more clarification, lol. Anyways, please continue to support Here U Are, it's such a good manhwa, and even though half of us want to rip our hair out, lets just wait and see what's still in store for us! (▰˘◡˘▰)