Not really.
Yes. You just gotta find the good stuffs xD
Read a LOT bro (▰˘◡˘▰)
There are even tags such as "non-stereotypical", "non-cliche" and all.
Even in hardcore yaoi, there are a lot of gems out there, it's just that you wouldn’t know until you give it a read cause some of the worst manga/webtoons I've read were 9+ rating so you can't really depend on that. And once in a while you can't help but stumble on poor plots like this one. So we can't really judge the whole yaoi world just by some shitty ones. There are a lot of decent stories out there.
I can also suggest you my list, they are pretty good yaoi/bl stuff!
Here goes -
http://www.mangago.me/home/mangalist/469708/
Try these out and see if you like any of them
^-^
Abuse someone to make him forget 'bout his other abusive ex. Makes totally sense no?
Sounds just right! ╮(￣▽￣)╭