Thanks for that!! I was so happy when Qiu told him off because it's true what he said about being selfish in only thinking about his feelings and that of the person. Or more importantly that others persons feeling are valid!! Bravo Qiu!!
Thanks for that!! I was so happy when Qiu told him off because it's true what he said about being selfish in only thinking about his feelings only and not of the other person. Or more importantly that others persons feeling are not valid!! Bravo Qiu!!
I'm glad we agree (▰˘◡˘▰) I enjoyed seeing Qiu grow, which I think was a realistic portrayal because we can totally reflect based on how new people make us feel, and words indeed have power :) Yi Ran recognized Qiu's change too, and I see her as a credible character since they dated before. (Like I mentioned in my post, Yi Ran seeking Qiu for comfort shows that she trusts him, and he probably understands her well. He's clearly patient, which we see whenever he's with Uncle Pan.)
Qiu telling YuYang off gave us an idea of how both characters are like. We see that our protagonist suffered growing up and he's used to fighting alone, instead of confiding in his friends and feeling supported. Meanwhile, Qiu has a lot of self-love, so he doesn't take people's comments to heart very easily. Qiu also doesn't invalidate others, since he pays attention to Uncle Pan and never brushes the old man off for "speaking nonsense." I think it's quite open-minded to pursue someone you're unfamiliar with; it's so easy not to do that considering that homophobia is still alive, and Qiu might have had an easier time pursuing a female.
So, yes, it's important to care for your own feelings, but you should also think of other people's feelings. And I think you should give them an honest answer, because that would be honesty for both parties. YuYang lied to LiHuan about not having romantic feelings because he doesn't have the courage to start a relationship, while LiHuan just doesn't know why YuYang lied. :/ Both parties are hurting when they don't need to. I truly appreciate Qiu being honest with himself and that he questions himself when he's not sure about his own feelings :)
I think Uncle Pan opened his eyes too. Our uncle thought Qiu would just have fun and leave, but nope. Qiu is growing up, thanks to the chance Uncle Pan gave the youngster to spend time together. I hope to see them date soon (≧∀≦)
I totally agree!!
Thank you for uploading and thank you team for the work you put to translating!! :)
I like that this story shows us the effects the people we meet can have on us. I have a feeling that Uncle Pan’s ex-partner influenced our old man’s view on love now. When Unce Pan asked Qiu in chapter 93, “... Why’re you pursuing me? Isn’t it also to get something from me? What is attractiveness? Is it only on the surface? Last time, when you said: ‘This time I don’t want to play anymore…’ What did you mean? What do you hope to get from me? Little friend…” I love that Qiu took that moment to answer honestly, despite not being sure himself. That outburst, “I want to get your attention!” was so genuine, I like the expression on Uncle Pan’s face. Our elder clearly did not expect such a simple and sincere response. And that moment reminded me that love can indeed be that simple. You can just genuinely enjoy being with that person, and that’s it. You don’t need an elaborate reason to be with them at all.
Reading a draft I wrote about chapter 92 now, my thoughts on Uncle Pan’s ex-lover hasn’t changed… The ex came back so casually, maybe Uncle Pan and this person broke up on amicable terms. I feel that if Uncle Pan chooses to reunite with his ex, the pair will probably have stability. But does Uncle Pan want just a stable and comfortable relationship? Uncle Pan has the chance to experience adventure with Qiu (our young boy has moments of innocence, which Uncle Pan may have left behind long ago). And if Uncle Pan and Qiu become a couple, I hope to see Uncle Pan be passionate about something: to be passionately in love. It sounds cheesy, but we just haven't seen our uncle being doting to someone else, so I'm curious about what that would look like. I get the feeling that Uncle Pan has gotten used to his routine as a bar owner who lives alone and cooks alone. Routine can be fine because it makes us comfortable and some people like that predictability, but I would like to see Uncle Pan live with a passion he looks forward to. Heck, it would be cute to see Uncle Pan look forward to dates instead of Qiu chasing after and wanting to see Uncle all the time xD
When Uncle Pan was on the phone with his ex and decided to not wait for Qiu to meet his ex at the airport, I have a feeling Uncle Pan might just be going to say farewell. Uncle Pan is probably going to tell his ex in-person that they won’t get back together, and maybe that’s when he’ll acknowledge that he too likes being with Qiu?? I’d be sad if DJun does not turn Qiu and Uncle Pan into a couple after developing them… :( I don’t know much about Uncle Pan’s ex, but he didn’t even say “Happy Birthday” to our uncle when they were on the phone T___T I don’t get the vibe that the ex will be attentive and doting like Qiu has been lol.
Yi Ran, Qiu’s ex-girlfriend, seems sensible. Yi Ran said she sincerely wanted to build a relationship with Qiu, but since she chose to approach him after getting dumped by her new boyfriend, I don’t think Qiu’s character is awful then. Yi Ran doesn’t seem to blame Qiu now, and even though she slapped him before, they seem like good friends or acquaintances now. Qiu might not walk into a relationship with the clearest intentions, but he doesn’t start a relationship because he wants to hurt the other party either. And I think that’s something Yi Ran recognized. Otherwise, I don’t think anyone would approach their ex for comfort, after getting dumped by their new partner, if the ex was a jerk whom they’re still mad at.
I like that Qiu is reflective! If you don’t reflect, it’s easy to repeat the same mistakes or bad habits, without growing at all. Qiu realizing that he wants to be treated with sincerity is an honest moment, which I appreciate. Flashing money was his way of getting people’s attention, but it was superficial and not genuine like how Uncle Pan cares. :’)
I wasn’t in love with the patriarchy here: it’s typical to see fathers put the responsibility on the mothers to discipline the kid, and that they don’t see that they also have a role to play as a parent; Qiu’s dad is one of those people who don’t put the time to discipline his own child, being no different from a sperm donor. -_- Of course, not all fathers are like this, but it is sad too because there are still people -males- like this who walk around, acting as though it’s the woman’s job to raise the kid and it’s her fault if the kid acts up. Qiu’s dad just didn’t bother to think, “Maybe my child is causing trouble because he WANTS my attention”?? LOL. Honestly. Bad parenting right here.
Now that Qiu realized his reason for wanting to be with Uncle Pan, I think we can expect a good conversation between the potential couple. Uncle Pan seems like a responsible person to me, so I don’t think he would ghost Qiu. Even if Uncle Pan and Qiu don’t meet one-on-one, Qiu could always visit the bar and our young boy knows where our elder lives lol. Uncle Pan even thanked Qiu for celebrating his birthday together and that Uncle hasn’t celebrated in years… T___T I don’t think Qiu and Uncle Pan would end like this, so I’m waiting for more!
Now, about YuYang…
I adore YuYang, but it wasn’t right for him to punch Qiu :/ I like that Qiu knocked some sense into YuYang (literally). Qiu’s “Who’s never been hurt before?! Why do you have to go so far?! Who cares if you’re gay?! What’s so special about that?! Are your feelings the only one’s that matter?! Are everyone else’s invalid?!” was honestly what YuYang needed to hear. At the beginning of chapter 94, we do see YuYang’s roommates being openly supportive of him. I hope that after Qiu told YuYang off, YuYang could go back to the dorm and confide in his friends. There’s even that friend who’s the dad of the group and hugged YuYang, so our protagonist is certainly more than welcome to open his heart to his friends. Like Qiu said, denying someone’s feelings just because you’ve been hurt before… I don’t think YuYang wants to continue living like that, and LiHuan doesn’t deserve it either. Maybe after this confrontation, Qiu and YuYang could become friends. Sometimes, we just need that one person who lets us see what we just can’t see. Qiu may be that helpful soul who will encourage our main couple to talk and finally start dating x))
Good luck to both couples! :))