Someone who enjoys seeing someone else in pain or seeing them humiliated..oft times sadists are the ones doing the tormenting
I get you, afroluv. voice of reason.
thank you
they get pleasure from hurting/humiliating other people. it doesn't necessarily have to be related to sex, though. it's okay to be sadist if you have consent from the other party. some people are pissed about this since dojun was unable to give his consent properly and the sex scene can technically can be labeled as rape, and others just find this to be hot as hell
thank you very much for giving a good, well thought out answer. much appreciated.
I have known people, conscientious practitioners of sado masochism, who are hurt or very angry over the definition most people give to this word. I've been there and listened to their feelings of how the world so casually abuses these terms.
If I hear "sadist" used casually too many times as has happened here, I have a hard time with it since I've known these people, liked and respected them, and was even a little in awe of the way they handled their partners and made healthy partnerships/marriages that endured over time. They don't hurt their partners for the fun of it. - On a side note I would advise against saying something like "it's okay as long as it's consensual" to one of these people
At the same time, I know that this word is used freely to refer to something people consider to be a bad trait, and I don't feel it necessary to be pissed off over it unless it crosses a certain line. For example, if someone says, "all sadists should be behind bars" I'm probably going to speak up.
I just wanted to make sure we had at least two good definitions, so thank you to those who answered
Can we get a working definition of "sadist?" It's a real question and I promise I won't come down on anyone for answering. I see a lot of people saying it, so there must be a definition agreed up - even if it's just a general slang definition - I just want to know what people are meaning when they say it.