I second that
oh wow. really? I'm Asian too and I have an older sister but our parents treat us the same. I wouldn't say "most" too. I guess, it just really depends on the type of personality and culture the parents have. Just sayin'. :)
@nanachin and jajaja: I think JarOfTears is probably right, but even so, that doesn't negate what you experienced personally, which sucks and I'm sorry to hear you went through it. I don't think it's necessarily an 'Asian' thing, so much as a 'parents who don't know what they are doing' thing. Good luck to both of you.
Treating 2 siblings differently has nothing to do with being asian. This happens in most families.
i third that
I think what nanachin is trying to say is that the occurrence of differential sibling treatment is higher in Asian families. Yes, it has nothing to do with being asian but there is a high correlation between them. This may be driven by traditional or historical factors that exists in Asian context. I agree with nanachin on that point.
I kinda know what you guys mean but instead of my mother it is my father. I never really get to talk to him, I get so nurves that the grandmother has to tell me to go hug him. Bit I still try to get the love from him and I even get magorly jealous when someone else is with him and i can't do a thing about it. However the only person who has really stood by my side was my mother. I have had a trouble child hood and have seen things and been though things that no children should go though.
so true I am being compared to my 5 year old sister because she is smarter than me in some area while my younger sis 12 year old is being compared to me 13 for being smarter than her so it is like a three way comparing
compared to my sister for some things. she is compared to me for other things.
i care a lot about school and i am more intelligent than my sister but i have no friends (not related to the school thing)
she is more social and has tons of friends. she is not bad at school but her grades are a bit worse than mine.
its like my parents want us to be perfect and to be awesome at school and at the same time have a special social life.
It's true . Tbh even if the mangas seem exaggerated it's sometimes not cause when you feel like the whole world INCLUDING your own family puts pressure on you it gets depressing
Most Asian mothers are usually like Makoto's mother actually... Even if it's not that concrete like in the manga you can feel that pressure if you are not "good enough". My parents are also Asian and I do love them but the truth is they treat me & my sister differently.