My list: (I go by the seme not wanting to rape uke idk if that is helpful)
Yatamomo - reminds me of stigma and uke has gone through stuff like in stigma mostly shown in prequels.
Smells Like Green Spirit - pedophile in the story but not main characters.
Not a sugar daddy - it’s long but there’s one part that’s freaking rape and makes you angry.
Ore no Oniku-chan - Seme is really loveable but he’s definitely had a rapey type ex lover.
Sabita Yoru Demo Koi Wa Sasayaku - rape/abusive lover but new love interest is sweet.
—See you again - this one is iffy because seme isn’t what I would consider a rapist but then again uke is very slutty.
Cover up - it’s always the ex’s man
SAHA- yup this one broke me for days..
Sorry took A while! Hope you like what I recommend (⌒▽⌒)

Does someone know something similar i like that Stigma dont romantize Rape and im looking for something like that. (It dont have to be Yaoi)