I might get some serious hate on asking your opinion on this guys, but I can't be the only...

Yea I also feel like that sometimes. Especially if the FL is some weak an poor soul who needs to depend on the ml for everything. And I feel bad for when a side character or villainess gets their life ruined for wanting something. Like you gotta be the purest, nicest, most selfless thing in the world or you're a bitxh

You mean as in when the heroine goes for the ml when he is engaged to the fl when she wasn't the reincarnated/isekaied version yet?

Are you talking about the original female lead in the novels that the story is based in or the female lead of the manhwa/manga that gets transmigrated into the novel?

yep, exactly!

yeah
both versions
I just think that if you are engaged, you are engaged.
Both sides shouldn't make a move.
Being friends is one thing, but since they portray the heroine as some sort of "saint", she shouldn't steal another woman's man. Isn't stealing a woman's man way worse than that so called "bullying" that is actually just criticism?

both!
If he is engaged, why are you trying to steal his heart? Being friends is one thing, but if he is engaged and you start feeling something, shouldn't this so called "pure being" put those feelings aside? If they are so cutesy, goodie goodie and a saint, why are you stealing someone's man? Isn't there a huge plot hole in this?
I just feel bad that they ruin these male target's fiances lives when most of them didn't actually do something truly harmful.

i agree, i always assumed the story made it clear that thats what it is (at least villainess stories except a few)

i hate it so much when the saintess og heroine steals someones fiancee and shes in the right? like???

Well, there were a few that the heroine, even if a thieving cat, is in the right. Like "Oh, she came from another world, so it's fine even if I have a fiance" and she is like "He has a fiance, but I came from another world and little poor me knows nothing about this place..." even though the king himself is protecting her. There are some stories that they just find an excuse for the heroine to be in the right

Yep, I hate it too! Like, you thieving cat, the villain should beat you up black and blue!

Ooohhh, yeah, I always think that

Hmmmm... I think it would depend on the story itself. A lot of these stories, especially the ones about the villianess/victim going back in time, are about revenge and the faults in human beings. It's like a Shakespeare play, no one in the story is completely innocent. Everyone has an agenda and everyone has an undesirable fault.

If you see it from the perspective of someone who has been plucked out of their universe and dropped into another, that's a really large amount of stress and desperation that they're dealing with. So they'll most likely strike any deal or accept any kind of help extended their way. It's survive or die for them.

The only thing I find it very odd is how quickly they assimilated into a social circle that doesn't resemble their old lives at all. Because none of us common folks are going around having verbal battles with each other or scheming for one another's riches and statuses. We don't even understand how the entirety of the economy works most of the time, let alone understanding royal/nobility business practices or war strategies. Yet these transmigrated people are prancing through rich society like they've been trained to do it.

Also, the lack of being infected by disease and food poisoning is also baffling. If this is another world, you'd expect they'd be exposed to bacteria and infections they've never been exposed to but nope, they're fucking healthier than God.