That made me cry a bit. Children should NEVER be a part of their parent’s BS.

My guess is that it's precisely because they left her out of their issues they quarrel. An easy mistake is to think raising a child is dedicate to work so he gets his needs covered. Or think too far ahead on the child's life and "set it on stone" without interesting the child on it properly then get angry on him because it doesn't go that way.

A child is quite more than responsibility but less than "ideal future self". It ultimately is just another human being xD

My parents had their differences. They left us out of their BS. They handled their adult situations and arguments in private. But my dad was home for dinner at 6:30 every night. We had great family time every night. Both parents made themselves available to us for anything and showed great respect to each other. As my sisters and I grew older, my parents included us in some of their disagreements. When they decided to separate they discussed it with us. Until I was old enough to go to sleepovers at friends’ houses, I didn’t know how lucky I was to have parents like them. Parents should never yell at each other in front of their kids or take out their frustrations on their kids. They should base what they include their child in, on the maturity and comprehension level of the child.

As an adult I found out things about my father that are despicable. I don’t know how my mother put up with it. But, I have great respect for both of them. As parents, I couldn’t have asked for better. They set a great example of responsibility and dedication to us and I’ve tried to pass that along to my children. But, UGH, I’ve definitely made my share of mistakes.

Thanks for sharing that. keep it up, the best thing we can do is try to make up for what our parents lacked, same will be for our kids and so builds the future. (●'◡'●)ﾉ

You’re right. These days it seems life is so much harder. If we all just remember our children will be/act/conduct themselves in a large part of what we parents teach them and show them, we can keep ourselves in check and show them what we wished our parents showed us.