Nope. He gets a say when she can’t be bothered to be a fucking grown up and coparent like any decent person. She’s a self absorbed loser who is mentally abusive, and needs a good talking down to
Why 'mentally abusive'?
you can see someone explaining in the comments that in Japan only one parent gets custody. The other parent has no rights.
so after years of being a parent to her child and a parent to her husband, he has sole rights. She still sees her child and that's essentially all she can do.
Maybe get your misogyny/internalized misogyny worked on. if he wasn't fucking worthless as a husband and a father, she probably wouldn't have left.
Yesss thank youuuu!!!
They aren’t divorced so no reason not to coparent. Plus anyone in a relationship that would call their partner pathetic and have their child think they were useless is a mentally abusive person
And someone’s fucking worthless because they have trouble cooking and doing laundry? Marriage is a partnership where you compliment each other’s strengths. He loves his family, supports them, and was never physically or mentally abusive to them. That’s a shitty person to you? You guys blow my mind
If one partner does all of the child-rearing and all of the housework, and the other partner is completely able bodied, etc, then they ARE worthless.
Unless there is a physical disability there is no reason for an adult to not know how to cook and do laundry. The dude doesn't need to be a Michelin chef nor a 5 stars hotel room attendant to know how to do those basic things. The fact that he relies on an ex student to do everything for free is ridiculous. He is not worthless (nobody is) but he sure as hell should grow up and be a proper adult.
No. Look. How the sensei is and what he can and cannot do is his business. However, you said parenting is a two person business. Exactly. If the adult here cant possibly do anything and is 'cute' because of it, according to the uke, well, that's the Uke's business. But expecting his wife to put with that is NOT fair. She has to 'adjust' and 'sacrifice' to give the child a false sense of security? Children are not stupid. If their parents are unhappy, they can feel it and they'd blame themselves for it. It's better to leave than live with an elephant in the room their whole lives. This kid is so mature she knows what is what.
I'm only calling out the seme being an ignorant asshole putting his head into other people's business when he knows jack shit about them simple because he is frustrated that he feel in love with a guy who is in live with someone else. That's his problem. It isn't right to drag other people because if his inability to deal with his personal issue.
Oh man. Get back to me in 20 years and let me know how life’s worked out for you
Just because your bar for men is so low it's a tavern in Hades, doesn't mean you should encourage other people to live the same way.
Well, I'm in my mid 30s and move out of my parents house when I was 22 . As a normal person I learned how to do laundry, cook and clean the house without any problems. My partner is 40 yo and is the same. Weather I'm home or not he can do all the housechores like a normal adult. I feel we're doing pretty great (▰˘◡˘▰)
Bada boom tiss!
I read through this comment thtead and I've got just 3 questions. Did she not see his so called "worthlessness" before getting married to him. Was she not aware? Or did she marry him hoping he'd change? If she did know and married him all the same and then left cause she got fed up then she's one fucking irresponsible person.. If you know you won't be able to handle a person's flaws or married them cause you have some delusions about them losing those flaws then that's fucking stupid aiit. Y'all defending her like she's a saint. Mtchwwwe
I’m sorry what... like literally they could’ve got married cuz they like each other or whatever.. but you can expect that if having a child, both parents should step up to the responsibilities abd if one couldn’t, the other had the right to not stay in that relationship. No ones a fucking mind reader and predict how one can act. That’s literally similar to victim blaming.
People can change AND/OR not change during marriage.
Also this comment thread is about that seme being so fucking rude to the mother where he has no right to say anything cuz he has feelings for uke. It has nothing to do with how the mom viewed the ex..
No ones saying she’s a saint, we are saying that the seme HAD NO RIGHT to be a lil shit
This was a reply to another post but whatever.
He has no business interfering. She has her own difficulties. Maybe she needs to time to get back up. Maybe not. We have no idea. But he has no right to hurt someone else without knowing their side of the story. If he wants to judge, okay. Go ahead and judge but he can keep his judgement to himself.
If he is pining over his uke, yeah. Go ahead but don't drag other people into his shit. Everyone has their own story. If you're gonna blame someone, blame your uke who never confessed out of his own weakness. Although even that's wrong. It's up to the uke to like whoever and confess whenever. He's at least showing the decency to keep his judgement about sensei's life to himself. The seme...he's just throwing his frustration to a third party who is unrelated and has her own circumstances. Immature fool.