Hey guys, I have a kinda personal question here. I've never dated anyone before in my life...

You don't have to date someone if you don't want to and not beind attracted to anyone doesn't mean that you are bi it has nothing todo with that .I , for a long time was sure to be bi because I am attracted to both male and female but I am not relly sure anymore... Just take your own decision and are you really not attracted to anyone???!! Maybe you're just a romantic??? or is it something else ans sorry if I am asking too personal questions Σ(っ°Д °;)っ

The most common term for a person who has no sexual attraction, regardless of gender, is asexual (sometimes "ace" for short). If you were bisexual, that would mean that you are attracted to both or all genders. There are definitely other people out there like this, so you aren't alone. I'm not ace myself, but I have friends who are , and aces have been accepted by the LGBT community for the most part (really now it's the LGBTQIA community, with A being asexual).

I wouldn't let your friends pressure you. You have to do what is right for you. The most important thing to do isn't necessarily to label yourself, it's to do what makes you happy and feel personally fulfilled. Your feelings could change as you get older, or you could meet someone special, but you also could not change at all and that's ok. Some aces decide to have relationships with other aces, so it's like dating but with no sex. Or maybe having regular friendships is right for you. You just have to do what works for you, not what works for other people. Hope that helps ^_^

I'm really not attracted to anyone. My friends (girls) will be like look at how hot that guy is and I just dont see why he's so hot. And even my friends that are guys will say she's so cute and it's the same. I just don't get it. I've never seen anyone who I look at romantically.

The most common term for having no sexual attraction at all, regardless of gender, is asexual. If you were bisexual, that would mean that you are attracted to both or all genders. I'm not personally like this, but I have friends who are and I know that asexuals have pretty much been accepted by the LGBT community (now it's really the LGBTQIA community, with A being asexual).

The most important thing isn't necessarily to label yourself though. You don't want to get trapped by a label and think that that's how you have to be. You should just do what is right for you and makes you happy. If that means never dating and just having friends than that is ok. Things could change as you get older, and they could not, and there's nothing wrong with that. Just do what's right for you ^_^

Ah geez, I thought the other one didn't post, so I replied again. Oops!

listen when the right person comes along then you will know. im not bi or ace though my friend says i could be pans but who cares all that matters is that your happy. don't let ours try to force you to do something you don't want to.

*others* :3

I would like to add one thing, and that is bisexuality is referring to just two genders, male and female. I does not refer to all genders. That would make the person pansexual ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶

I can relate, I've never dated anyone either, but I do feel attraction. Maybe you're asexual?
It's really unnecessary of your friends to push you like that, I think attraction and love should come naturally and isn't something you should force. Just ignore them, or tell them to stop pushing you. I know it can be frustrating, my friends and family are nagging at me all the time, but you really shouldn't do something you're not comfortable with. (Sorry if the English is a bit off)

I must admit I am mostly the same. Rather than saying you are bi I think you are like me and just have no interest in dating just yet. How old are you by the way. Cause I am 21 now. I only just started dating and I say somewhat because I don't know completely what my feelings are just yet, but I was told we make a good couple. Also my relationship is a long distance one so it is hard to figure my feelings out right now.

I wrote it that way because believe it or not, it's a matter of politics. In general I agree with you because of the original use of the term and the meaning of the prefix. But, and I kind of get why, some organizations that politically and socially represent bisexuals claim that bisexuality represents being attracted to both/all genders. I guess they figure that if you like men and women, then it makes sense that you can like anything on the spectrum in between and it's reasonable to count that as bisexuality. Sort of like instead of saying that it means you are attracted to men and women, it means you are attracted to masculinity and femininity. I figure people can decide for themselves where they side on that argument.

I'm 16. I know I'm still young, but it's highschoolers yaknow? Everybody wants you to be dating someone

I identify myself as asexual.
Most of my friends and family don't understand, and try to hook me up anyways. But, i can tell you from experience, trying to date someone when you're just not interested sexually just ends up embarrassing, hurting and frustrating both parties.

That's not to say you shouldn't even bother. If you do find someone you feel emotionally attracted to, don't brush it off "cause you're asexual", but explore those feelings. Sexuality can be in flux. You might be Demi-sexual after all. (unable to feel physical attraction without a strong emotional bond first)

You might also want to, just for the sake of due diligence, go to a gynecologist and get your pap smear and hormones tested. Asexual feelings may be due to a hormone imbalance or cervical cancer. That's the first thing i did actually, once i figured out that lust wasn't this magical thing that would beem me in the head as it seemed to do my friends. I come out normal for both tests, so i the only thing left i could assume i was indeed in the asexual range.

That's not to say i don't get aroused and because i do, i'm not valid for identifying myself as asexual. I still read yaoi and yuri and other sexually explicit material, like romance novels, and ocassionally, after HOURS of reading or during the right time of the month, about a week before that time, i might get aroused.

I meant to delete that last paragraph, as it probably has little to do with your personal experience and whether or not you should decide to identify yourself as Asexual. #'_'# Sorry. Though if that sound familar, you might be in the same boat as me.

I am asexual. I tried to go out with someone but it did not work. If you don't feel like dating then don't, don't worry you are not alone. I also like to be alone that is when i am at my happiest. Enjoy life the way it makes you happy, not others.

Same here I've never really dated anyone and really I just don't care about. I've been told I could be bi or even a lesbian cause I'm not attracted to men. I suppose I'd be okay with a girl but to be honest I just don't want to be with anyone, I like my alone time too much.

I've never dated anyone. I'm happier single.. really, but I was told that I haven't found my other half yet. IMHO, you don't have to be stressed up by your friends about this. You'll be fine, just live life the way you like it. One day, this will all be just a phase. You'll find yourself soon enough. It is just the matter of time.

ps. This is the first time I'm actually saying this in public: I'm a closeted heteroflexible (or maybe not closeted enough since I've been approached from both sides despite living in a very conservative place), had crushes on both sides but never got interested enough to actually date someone. Like I said, happier single for now. Just live life to the fullest! (๑•ㅂ•)و✧

Here I am. I am the same with u. I don't have any feeling for both genders n never feel attracted towards them! My mom also wants me to be in a relationship with a guy coz my all other siblings r in relationship. But I keep neglecting her wish coz I can't bring myself to like somebody sexually. So I just stay alone. I don't care coz it's my life I'll live it as the way I am.

I identify myself as asexual, and I when I was younger, I had a really hard time identifying who I was. I thought I was weird. I never felt any sort of sexual attraction to anyone. Once I started learning more about sexuality, I realized that I'm not weird at all and it's just how you are.

I have this mindset that if I do happen to fall in love with someone then that's just how my life will go. If I don't then I just don't. So, I think that you shouldn't let your friends pressure you into finding a boyfriend. Plus there's absolutely nothing wrong with staying single! :) This is just my opinion, but I hope it helps you even if it's just a little.

I don't understand the need to identify with anything. If and when you are ever attracted to someone, it will hopefully be because of that person being that person. Not because they are ... male, female ... sheep, statue, random face in a magazine ... fetish object ... (have I covered all the bases yet?) Until then, introduce your nosy parkers to your vibrator and explain that you're dating.